Borderline Girl, Interrupted (Rebecca Ray's "Pure")

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• JC

  @Jcm1900 · 4 years ago

  I am a healed borderline woman. It has been the most difficult process I have ever experienced. I was getting emotional listening to you, but grateful that it wasn’t triggering. Sex has been my whole life. I’m 46 and finally understanding the value of my body. It has been years of therapy, spending a lot of time alone, research and reading. Thank God

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• DR

  @dropdead_red · 4 years ago (edited)

  I found a used copy for such an amazing price I decided to buy several for a girlfriend, and both of our teen daughters. The timing could not have been more serendipitous as my daughter was just speaking with me about her interest in the film, “Girl, Interrupted”, and wondered if I thought that any of the characters may be sociopaths, psychopaths, or women with borderline personality disorder. <br>I had my daughter young, and with that comes many challenges, unfortunately it’s the child who truly suffers the most. I have done my best to disclose my own mental health conditions with her as the moments presented themselves and when appropriate. I wanted her to know she could always speak to me about anything, that I myself was far from perfect, (stating the obvious there). In her late pre teen years, around 9 or ten I began to notice changes in her. Her father and I split when she was 7 and he found a new family shortly after, with a daughter. His new daughter was perfectly matched in age to the one he chose to discard entirely. I too was abandoned by my father. I know that look of deflated hope, stolen youth, and emptiness. I saw it first in myself, and then in my beautiful daughter. Since then it has been difficult, you name it, my daughter did it. Was caught selling the “inappropriate green” plant, caught corresponding with a boy incarcerated in a juvenile center, and many more things I don’t wish to discuss for fear of the YT algorithm catching my comments and flagging for removal. <br>Fast forward to several months ago, I was told she was going to leave when she was 18, “maybe I’ll come back when I’m 28-30. I’ll dance for money. Who cares.” My heart broke… again. Time passed slowly. <br>Finally, this morning she said she wanted to study psychology and eventually be able to teach others, like I had taught her. <br>She wants to go to school, she wants something better for herself. <br>She believes she deserves better, and for me, that means EVERYTHING. <br>Thank you Sam for offering your knowledge to people like me to share, (to the best of my ability). I- WE may have helped the most important person in my life. Thank you.

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• PO

  @pollyzso · 4 years ago

  anyone else has this feeling that borderlines - hypersexed - might have bveen childhood sexual abuse victims which they dont have memories of ( because they were too young or completly dissociated?) and this sort of sexual behaviour is repetition compulsion? and they actually at the time of trauma couldnt do anything about it and it was done by an authority figure with a lot of influence ?? and somehow their disorded is both there to hide the trauma but try to uncover the trauma?

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• ZI

  @zippy10256 · 4 years ago

  I&apos;m going to therapy and going to see a psychologist for the first time soon. Im nervous what he will tell me, but I also want to know what&apos;s going on so I can stop hurting myself and others, this is too accurate.

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• NO

  @NoNakersAllowed · 4 years ago (edited)

  This describes my life. I&apos;ve got to read this book. I truly believe I have this disorder but I&apos;m still undiagnosed. The way you analyze it all makes total sense and is so accurate.

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• DA

  @daybyday1664 · 2 years ago

  Thanks to Winona Ryder’s for pushing as hard as she did so we have this in an amazing film. She fell in love with the story and advocated for Girl, Interrupted after her and Johnny D. broke up. Hopefully people will research the books that helped create it.

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• CA

  @casket8530 · 4 years ago (edited)

  Can&apos;t think of worse disorder for a girl/woman. This is dark.

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• JA

  @janept9639 · 4 years ago (edited)

  An accurate description of my life which was both painful and helpful to watch. &nbsp;I was 13 and had my first sexual experience with a 25 year old. &nbsp; &nbsp;I didn&apos;t resist, just did what he told me - like an automaton. Minor self harming started shortly after this while I was still being used by him. Sex is like a lens through which I view life and it&apos;s always present, even in non-sexual situations. &nbsp;I was diagnosed 20 years after the first encounter.<br> &nbsp;Thank you Rebecca and Prof Vankin

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• PA

  @paradanmellow · 3 years ago

  there is also a movie from 2017 called &quot;Tess&quot;, based on a book called &quot;Whiplash&quot; by Tracey Farren

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• PR

  @princhipessa1969 · 4 years ago

  Another excellent video Professor. Makes me want to find this book. <br>My exGF said she started sexually knowing her body at 5! &nbsp;She was with boys for awhile very early then realized she was a lesbian. Just last year she said she almost feels trans - but not sure. Sexually, she was kind of Stone Cold (lesbian term for not wanting to be touched). &nbsp;<br>I know she was neglected at a young age and her parents were abusive at times but she never spoke of other trauma but I know something happened to her by the way she said “sometimes it’s too hard to discuss” when we were watching a movie clip about trauma. <br>She said she could always open up to me yet she discarded me last week after off/on since 2012. &nbsp;I always wanted to be her rock but her abuse was too much for me.

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• FL

  @flor2dworld · 4 years ago

  It was totally acurate. I wish the best for this girl. 🙏💟

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• AN

  @anabandana666 · 3 years ago

  speechless halfway through, the narration of the dance throughout my life is shattering. looking forward to finding this book

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