This is What Losing You Looks Like To An Avoidant

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  @sarahchristinehypnosis · 4 months ago (edited) · pinned

  What was the most suprising thing about the breakup with an avoidant to you? Did you hear from them? Did they ghost, never to be heard from again? I want to know! ⬇️⬇️⬇️<br>And if this hit the part of you that keeps waiting, checking, or wondering if they feel the loss, I created hypnosis tools for the part of you that understands the pattern intellectually… but still feels attached in your body.<br>Start here:<br><a href="https://stan.store/hypnosisheals">https://stan.store/hypnosisheals</a>

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• KE

  @KennyLORE · 2 months ago

  The thing is. How can we possibly be with a person who has the capabilities do that to another person. Think about it, how can you even trust this person ever again?

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• KR

  @krijnnl · 3 months ago

  No contact. No conflict.

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• TO

  @TomBrecker-Author · 4 months ago

  the part nobody talks about is what happens in your own nervous system while you wait. every check, every look at the phone, every moment of wondering is your system trying to resolve an open loop. the attachment is not in your thoughts. it&apos;s in your body. and the body doesn&apos;t care about logic or self respect or knowing better. it just wants the threat resolved. that&apos;s what makes no contact genuinely hard. you&apos;re not fighting a decision. you&apos;re fighting a biological drive.

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• EM

  @emilio3644 · 4 months ago (edited)

  If you don’t chase them, they will choose the easiest way for them instead of being vulnerable and take accountability. They will just go for rebound relationship. <br><br>They will start over with someone new. of course this is not going to work as they think. In three or two months in most cases it fails and they come back but they still cannot take accountability. They will not tell you that they miss you and they made mistake and they want to repair it. that they never do. They will just start with breadcrumbing but you have already changed. You don’t take such surface level interactions. You want clarity. you are no longer in their orbits. They are not there for this anyway, not because they realise something or they miss you. of course they might miss you &nbsp;but they miss the accessibility to you. <br> &nbsp;<br>If you don’t give them what they want, they will go on Dating apps this time to search for next the rebound. It’s not worth it. move on and find a secure person. You deserve better than such people.

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• VL

  @vladlenin3160 · 4 months ago

  I am the type of person who would punish an avoidant and I did.<br>One of the reasons our society gets so out of balance is the failure of negative feedback loops. &nbsp;Some people need the stick instead of the carrot. <br>For the people who f me over, I become the stick.<br>It&apos;s not about revenge, it&apos;s about restoring balance.

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• DL

  @dl6043 · 4 months ago (edited)

  I blocked my avoidant ex, simply because not all people deserve to have access to me

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• TO

  @Tom-71950 · 3 months ago

  “Choose carefully, who resides in your heart, for no one but you will pay the price of their stay”. - Kahlil Gibran .<br><br>Thanks Kahlil 🎉😊

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• BU

  @BubbaGunShrimp · 3 months ago

  3 years no contact

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• BI

  @bigvibecheck · 4 months ago

  I guess avoidants are like cats lol. You try to pat the cat and they run. You chill out and the cat might come to you

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• AS

  @Ashtarot77 · 3 months ago

  For the first time in months since separating from him, I woke up with peace in my heart. I thought about him, and there were no tears.

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• BA

  @barrackb0325 · 1 month ago

  My advice for everyone who has an avoidant ex. Thank them for doing you a huge favor and move on. Focus on you and get you to be a better person. Move on, you do not want to keep doing this.

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