THIS is Why Avoidants Pull Away - And When to Move On (Confessions of a Recovered Avoidant)

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  @understandablepodcast · 1 month ago · pinned

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  @TeresaTBrinker · 1 month ago

  I’m just really trying to watch this to see if I will feel better but my heart is aching, and every moment feels empty without him. I&apos;m holding on to the hope that we&apos;ll be together again, and my happiness will be restored.

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  @TheMcC07 · 1 month ago

  I can understand why they pull away... but that doesn&apos;t excuse the behavior before, during, or after the breakup. Move on as soon as you realize they&apos;re an avoidant. Don&apos;t let yourself stay and get more deeply attached. Rip your arm out of the trap, take however long you need to lick your wounds, and move on. But don&apos;t fall into another trap. Learn from your past.

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  @flower_7890 · 1 month ago

  (As a healing avoidant)... I used to think &nbsp;that people were trying to control me and I was always reacting negatively when they tried to get closer or express their needs . I remember telling myself &quot; no one can fully have me, no one can trap me&quot; 😔

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  @joeygaskin · 1 month ago

  wow! this is spot on.100%

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  @alexanderlim4728 · 1 month ago

  hallo robert, danke für deine erfahrungen. was ich nicht verstehe ist, du sagst sie haben angst verletzt zu werden, sie wissen aber nicht, das sie diejenigen sind, die ihre partner verletzen. ein tägliches like für deinen grossartigen kanal

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  @Anja92ful · 1 month ago

  As always a great video Robert! Would you say that the ex that showed you so much compassion made you want to break up even more because of the feelings or guilt? Or did you feel she was lacking boundaries?

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  @Schwartzzz · 1 month ago

  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ERGnwtfd0tg&amp;t=1307">21:47</a> Cut

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  @fabiofaber5565 · 1 month ago

  My ex avoidant after I asked for some more during autumn winter and spring, since we stayed togheter most of the time in my summer beach house said she didnt want to live togheter just some days in those months cause she had to take care of her mother(its true, I am not joking). I stopped doing all the work. And after some months I started dating someone else. it was the natural outcome.

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  @alexk9403 · 1 month ago

  What happens when every single time they pull away they&apos;re always being met with kindness and warmth and never with conflict? Currently dealing with a third silence cycle..just trying to understand

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  @jameswingad3212 · 1 month ago

  In their avoidant form there really is nowhere to go. &nbsp;They treat you worse not better the more understanding you show. &nbsp;There really is not even the smallest bit of good in these people on any level.

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  @SuperJukkis · 1 month ago

  I give a lot of shit to avoidants but yeah, compared to narcissists they&apos;re an improvement.