Why Dismissive Avoidants Keep Starting Over

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• CO

  @CoachRyanH · 1 month ago · pinned

  What do you think dismissive avoidants are actually searching for when they keep starting over… a better partner, or a relationship that never requires them to become emotionally vulnerable? 👇

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• MG

  @mgn1621 · 1 month ago

  They think if only they could find the “right” one.   Zero self reflection or accountability.

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• AR

  @ArtistJesseEnglish · 1 month ago

  These people are the CRAZIEST!!!

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• AP

  @aprahmaprahm-w6o · 1 month ago

  I kept wishing for one more chance. One more conversation. One more day. One more opportunity to fix everything. But eventually, I understood that I couldn't rebuild a relationship alone.

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• JE

  @jenniferhamelin7827 · 1 month ago

  I've gone from wanting my avoidant back, to being really afraid to go back there. I now realise that it won't get better. I can do all the healing I want, but it needs two people to make this work.

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• WI

  @WinterBobby · 1 month ago

  When the avoidant gets exposed for what he or she really is, when the mask drops, they go in search of a new partner to get away from reality instead of confronting it once for all, and get on with your partner, as simple as that

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• CZ

  @czarna.slask87 · 1 month ago

  This is absolutely THE BEST video on yt concerning avoidants I have ever seen!!!

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• KI

  @Kiraschwarze · 1 month ago

  They dont do real. Suddenly, every single one disappoints and is demanding and too much.

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• CI

  @cindyweir9645 · 1 month ago

  It’s best not to expect anything from them. Stay in your own space and do you. The avoidant has a boundary that we cannot cross. They have to do the work on themselves. Don’t get into a romantic relationship with them. They can’t do it. They want love, but when love gets too close it triggers their nervous system. This is a childhood wound. And a partner cannot fix it and getting closer because you want to be closer will cause them to run until they have therapy and heal. Do not expect anything from them. Protect yourself and focus on yourself.

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• WE

  @wendy857 · 1 month ago (edited)

  This was a MAJOR eye opener. This is the EXACT pattern my now 2.5 year relationship has followed. I mean exactly. We haven’t had sex or any kind physical intimacy for 8 months now. It’s about time I stop blaming myself now and let myself off the hook.

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• PA

  @PatrickGeneLeBlancHardy · 1 month ago

  Speaking 🗣️ Big Facts HERE 🎤🐊

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• KA

  @KatieDancer-d1t · 1 month ago

  Interesting to now see how certain people toss dopamine around. It’s so seductive, and manipulative

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