When an AVOIDANT & an Empath Both Go NO CONTACT... THIS Happens Next | Matthew Hussey

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• BL

  @BlueAvians · 1 month ago

  As an empath I do not follow the pattern in the video. I do not chase, I do not accomodate, and I dont shrink myself for the avoidant. I give space and I am not afraid to stand my ground. I know what I want from a partner and it's not an avoidant. This is where the power lies. A wise empath knows they aren't tasked to heal others. We dont need validation. We can love from a distance and keep boundaries. The avoidant created the distance, so they can fill the gap. We don't fix what we didn't break and we dont make wishful thinking on someone's potential.

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• V.

  @v.b6028 · 1 month ago

  Sorry, but most avoidants will not sit in the pain. They will go and find somebody else and start the whole dopamine hit of early stage dating. That’s what they’re addicted to. They may miss you and they may bread crumb from you but that’s as far as it goes. They jump from one relationship to another and they leave once it going gets tough because the dopamine hit wears off and they’re faced with the reality of having to work hard in a relationship. And they don’t want to do that because it’s too much pressure. They have no capacity. Stay away from avoidant people. Not because they don’t deserve love but because when they haven’t started any inner healing, & they actually quite dangerous to the empath who overgives. I learnt this the hard way and it took me awhile to realise that while I was sitting there crying over him, he was underneath another woman, and a woman after her.. That’s the way they numb their pain and trauma of the past instead of  actually having to look at themselves and do the work. Good luck to all the empaths out there. Be careful who you’re giving your empathy and time to and make sure they deserve it.

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• DA

  @danieldora2208 · 4 weeks ago

  Oh, yeah!! I felt my identity was stolen...

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• EX

  @Exoticforeiign · 1 month ago

  Never chased just gave presence and when it wasn’t reciprocated I pulled back

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• CO

  @ConstantinosSmith-rz9kj · 6 days ago (edited)

  Just so everyone knows it is extremely rare to find pure dismissive avoidants and even rarer to find pure fearful avoidants...so if you are sitting there thinking your ex is a pure thoroughbred avoidant think again. In most cases its a combination of other attachment styles like for example secure attachment. Take any information you get with a grain of salt, learn to observe, listen, feel and learn on your own. Otherwise you just sit there guessing and going down rabbit holes you don't even know where they lead. The reason everyone is annoyed with avoidants is because they know when to call it quits, just learn to do the same. Instead of sitting there living in a world that's based on a past illusion and putting an ex on a pedestal because of how you felt with them, take care of your self and move to the next more loving relationship. Stop quitting on your self because other people are messed up and don't know how to cope! All their doing is taking you down with them.

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• CH

  @christopherkraft5553 · 9 days ago

  After 18 years, my wife just left and won’t speak to me. I’ve tried everything to get her back, but I can’t stop thinking about her. It hurts so much.

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• NI

  @NicolaTomlin-s2k · 1 month ago

  I’m a empath the man in situationship is an avoidant this explained everything

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• AV

  @AvoidantTruths-c8k · 1 month ago

  This explained my relationship perfectly. Thank you for putting it into words.

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• ST

  @SteveWild1114 · 2 weeks ago

  I'm an empath and I didn't react at all the way you describe in this video when my avoidant left.

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• MY

  @mycomment8267 · 12 days ago

  I was neglected as child. I have been hurt in every close relationship I have ever been in. Yet, I'm not afraid of love. Can't be childhood experience. Maybe interpretation of childhood experience and different personality type.

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• JE

  @jeannewright3027 · 1 month ago

  Oh this is wonderful. Thank you…the empath.    I just couldn’t see it in this one.  I knew things from life, knew how to go slow, but didn’t do with this guy, I blew by my decades of process. It started months ago. But 5/6 months something happened. I spotted it cause it was 2nd time reaction in about 2 weeks, clueless first time. Not so much when it was time 2.   It up set me, as I drove away I said to myself that is something not ok.  To the point I couldn’t make my self go home, so I went to a park by the river that I had seen over time.Pulled in, sat on a big rock, starred at river until I could manage. As I walked up my porch, I said to myself, you did this to yourself, you did not follow the process. He had me and the control.  And he is well not a bad person, how he got me, he was not a known person, but he to my knowledge was the first over decades to be what you and others call an avoidant. And I do believe he knows the terms and aware. I will not go back never is not in my vocabulary, but under my terms cause this is not peace, and he would have to sit in uncomfortable and hear my needs and know it’s not a guarantee, he has to be consistent and have capacity to hold on. I see the pattern, sad but I need peace.

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• GA

  @GanaLoveline · 1 month ago

  I appreciate this very much sir,thank you.this is exactly what me the empathy nd my avoidant partner are going through

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