Session 3 | Beverly | In Therapy with Alex Howard

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  @lindalock5065 · 4 years ago

  As a child of the sixties, totally related to this. Good girls don’t get angry! Had an aha moment when Beverly said that she feels stuck and doesn’t really know what she wants to do or where to live, that has been exactly and still is my experience! Thanks to Beverly and Alex. 💜

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• PA

  @pattyjohnston2650 · 4 years ago

  Thank you, Beverly for your courage in doing this in front of a camera.  It is hard enough to do privately without a camera in attendance.  Also, thank you for your honesty.  I found myself nodding my head a number of times as you expressed something.  You remind me of myself (I am 79 years old.).  I found the entire session to be useful.  I think as women we have a been taught that anger is definitely not "lady like" and that we are to be "good little girls".  Hopefully that is changing because I believe we have much power to bring into the world.

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• IM

  @Immortal_love_108 · 1 year ago

  Beverley, you would make a wonderful counsellor! I’m 40 but I can resonate with so much of your story. I felt moved by this episode and it has given me a lot to think about, in regard to anger and my volatile inner critic. Thank you Beverley for being courageous in sharing your story.

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• ME

  @melliness123 · 4 years ago

  I think my anger built up in childhood from being treated badly by my mother and not given a voice. I found anger has turned into depression. Especially in Britain, anger is seen as low class and so we stuff it away.

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• AM

  @amandaford1278 · 4 years ago

  Thank you, my childhood was similar, I don't feel anger. I'm not good at putting boundaries in, I often think everyone else is just more confident than me. The go at your own pace was really helpful too.

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• RE

  @reconstructinglove · 3 years ago

  After decades of therapy and healing, I only now can see why I've struggled with boundaries - I was trying to get rid of or control/quiet all anger!! Being the nice little girl meant letting people be mean to me!! I need to find that anger again, sit with it, and let it show me where I'm still letting others treat me badly. Thank you!!

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  @ericaarae · 4 years ago (edited)

  This is such an important episode for me, thank you Alex and Bev. My relationship with anger is complicated and yet I've always known it was important for me to learn to use it as the fuel to help me set my boundaries, but felt unable to do so. I've saved the episode so I can come back to it whenever I need a boost to remind me. One thing I thought of was that it might be useful to explain boundaries in a way that was more than just 'saying no' in the literal sense - whilst that may be implicit some might not understand that it also encompasses other things that affect you or behaviours by others that is not acceptable.

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• PA

  @pameladuzakowitcs1183 · 4 years ago

  This episode was empowering for me today.  I felt like you were both inside my head today.  This has been my complete feeling to the extreme this last week.  I have been trying to figure out what is wrong with me and why my anger is so strong.  I’m trying to keep it inside yet it is boiling over at the wrong times and affecting everything I do.  No one understands how I feel, I am not able to say no, I’m not even given the opportunity.  This is causing more anger and I’m losing my ability to control it.  I just felt every word spoken today.  Thank you

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• RU

  @ruch5tami · 3 years ago

  I can tell that she has done a lot of therapy because she has a lot of the terms and ideas that most therapists use and has not worked for her.  I hope that Alex’s methods work for her.  I hope that you get to the clearing and discover who you really are and enjoy the rest of your life!  ❤

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• ZE

  @zenithquasar9623 · 4 years ago

  My relationship with anger has been suppression and bottling up untill my 40s when I started to have these uncontrollable explosions that would shock myself and others around me

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• CL

  @clairesmith8120 · 4 years ago

  Thank you so much to you both for this episode. I've spent my whole life being the good little girl and keeping the peace. Never being angry at those abxsing me 😥 I was told to never cry or talk about what was happening or they would kill me 😭 Alex listening to you talking about boundaries and having never been given the space to do what I wanted, really spoke to me as I've realised that I can't relate to my anger either. I have always pushed it down as I was told that I don't have a right to my fexlings. That I was only a child and my job was to please others and sxtify their needs or I would be pxnished 😥 I'm sorry for crying, thanks for listening.

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  @philippawalker6200 · 4 years ago

  I am really enjoying the longer format. I am enjoying the reflections you are offering back to Beverley.

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