Session 13 | Katie | In Therapy with Alex Howard

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  @wendydee3007 · 3 years ago

  Is there any way of knowing how Katie is getting on? I feel like I&apos;ve made an emotional commitment listening to every one of these episodes and now really wondering and hoping she is okay. <br>I can relate to so much of what has happened with the husband and children. I had alarm bells going off in the early episodes about the way Katie was being undermined and disrespected by her husband. It happened to me in the same way. My children are adults now and I&apos;m with someone else, but I went through a similar nightmare. <br>Please can you let us know how she is getting on, bless her so much. Sending Katie lots of good energy, she is going through a spiritual journey to find herself. She has so many lovely qualities.

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• VI

  @victa5601 · 3 years ago

  Hi Katie, I was in a somewhat similar situation to you. I lived with an emotionally abusive husband for 18years, my children became teenagers &nbsp;and went off the rails completely, my husband had an affair, and all I did for about 3 years of this was cling onto our “family unit”, our “family home” &amp; everything I’d known for years.<br><br>But honestly, the best thing I ever did was leave one day with a suitcase of clothes &amp; start a new life in a tiny flat with nothing, ground zero. Not far away, an open door to my kids being with me, but respecting me in my own space where abuse of any kind is not tolerated. I still loved them &amp; supported them. But I let go of the dream that our family unit was a good thing. I let go of everything. I’m now 2 years in, I have the best relationship with my kids I’ve ever had, my daughter chose to live with me. I hardly own anything (I’m still building up &amp; fighting for a financial settlement) but my freedom, being respected &nbsp;by my kids &amp; just being myself is the best feeling I’ve ever had.<br><br>I’d recommend letting go &amp; starting something new. Maybe that house in the country you mentioned. Good luck ❤ xxx

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• JI

  @jillychandler · 3 years ago

  I know that these videos are a year ago, and would love to hear how Katie is getting on now, bless her. xxx

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• CH

  @charcoal8 · 4 years ago

  They say that in a narcissistic relationship, you come out of it thinking about yourself, whatever the narcissist wants you to think. They train you to abuse yourself and to question your every word and action.<br><br>The worst thing about coming out of an emotionally abusive relationship for me was the confusion. Replaying, trying to make sense of things that had no reason to cause problems.<br><br>The reality unfortunately is that to him, it was all just a game to get whatever he wanted. Push the right emotional button and I&apos;ll just keep giving. <br><br>They idealise, devalue and discard. One day it&apos;s wonderful and the next it&apos;s treading on eggshells and threatening to end the relationship.

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• YA

  @yaffaNC-17 · 3 years ago

  Wow. This can’t be easy to do this in front of camera and then share it with the world. Katie thank you for sharing this. It makes people who are in similar situation and mindset not feel alone. Thank you! 🌺

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• JI

  @jill44w · 3 years ago

  My heart goes out to Katie so much. There is light ahead Katie; keep going.

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• MI

  @miriamflanagan5494 · 3 years ago

  Katie&apos;s journey is very like my own i 100 percent am rooting for her . What a beautiful kind lady staying in the family home &nbsp;trying her hardest to keep her family together and doing her best for everyone. I&apos;ve been looking for episode 14 and praying for Katie to have the strength to keep going. ❤

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• MO

  @Mokkel73 · 2 years ago

  Man, am I on Team Katie! I always cheer for the fighters, not the winners.What a fighter she is! She is sitting there completely battered emotionally, all bruised and bloody, but still not giving in. I am so amazed.

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• QU

  @QuietLittleMousey · 3 years ago

  As a therapist I can see how hard you were working in this session, Alex! Well done and thank you - so interesting

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• CH

  @CharlotteB. · 1 year ago (edited)

  She&apos;s so deep into victim mode. Things won&apos;t change before she recognizes that. Speaking from experience. She&apos;s not listening to you at all, Alex. I really admire how calm and collected you stay.

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• CA

  @catherinesinclair7727 · 3 years ago (edited)

  Codependency. A dysfunctional family system and they all trigger each other.

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• MM

  @mmmmlllljohn · 3 years ago

  Katie, you are not fat and ugly - you have been gaslit for a long time by Simon. Protect yourself from his narcissistic tactics and let him deal with the kids. Sometimes, we can only save ourselves and this is your time. Do what you enjoy and separate from all abuse now and your son will have to suffer the consequences of his behaviour. Praying for you. ❤️🇨🇦🙏

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