A Deep Dive into The Current State of Dating | Couples Therapist Advice for 2026

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  @ccgirl2003 · 9 months ago

  I 1,000% agree with you on not ghosting. It's not an obligation, it's an act of kindness. Collective ghosting just creates a low trust dating culture.

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• JU

  @Junoxbeen · 9 months ago

  I think a video like this would be super helpful for friendships too ! With the loneliness epidemic, I think myself and many people are struggling to find ‘their people’ . I would love a video maybe breaking down friendships or how to find your people in today’s climate :) !

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• FR

  @frankconlon748 · 9 months ago

  I've been ghosted so much that it doesn't even bother me anymore. I just take it as them saying they're not interested and move on.

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• CH

  @cherishwashington6986 · 9 months ago

  my husband and i met on a dating app, and our first date was us just talking for 11 hours. we always laugh about how theres a world where i didn't swipe because I didn't initially find his pictures attractive but i saw him in person and i thought he was the most beautiful person i had ever seen. i still think that.

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• EA

  @eaaronross · 9 months ago

  This requirement of needing to feel a spark IMMEDIATELY has to be the biggest speed bump / relationship killer. There are so many reasons to not feel a spark on a first date and it's a tragedy that people just toss someone away over it. Give love a chance!

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• FA

  @FaithFinanceEd · 9 months ago

  There are too much options and people has unrealistic expectations

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• TG

  @tgheretford · 9 months ago

  We treat dating with a survivorship bias. Those who have been burnt out or have lost hope or are deemed undateable by society tend to not be represented outside of an individual anecdote in a comment section or a video.

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• LA

  @lauraambrosiano9940 · 8 months ago

  I honestly have never had a positive experience with the apps.  They always feel like they tear me down and undo all the good work I've done on myself until I go from a normally confident person to a puddle of self-hate.  I end up really resenting people for continuing to push me back into them while also telling me that if I'm being so negatively effective I should stop.  I joke that dating apps are like having someone tell you to get into a vat of acid to help your skin, and then when you say it’s burning your skin off they say “well get out of that acid dummy” and so you get out and say “gods my skin is so damaged I need help” and then they “well have you tried this acid?”

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• JB

  @Jbeezy94 · 9 months ago

  I think ghosting is disrespectful. We go on multiple dates, possibly have sex, make me feel like it’s going somewhere and then u disappear. <br><br>It creates fear and walls up, just like u said! The idea “I owe this person nothing” means u are selfish. It’s is a true statement by logic but by emotion u do owe the person an explanation for why u don’t wanna date them, even if it’s a lie. <br><br>It’s simply rude to ghost someone that was developing or has feelings for u.

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• FR

  @FramedFlower · 9 months ago

  I met my husband on hinge during the pandemic. Our first date was a &nbsp;zoom date and our second date was a masked walk. He was someone I never would have swiped right on before the pandemic because I would have thought he was out of my league. But it was the pandemic and desperate times call for desperate measures. He is the love of my life. Two years into our relationship we took 6 months off work and travelled the world. On our four year anniversary we got married. Now we have a baby. My opinion is: never give up on love, and shoot your shot.

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• LE

  @leighann9608 · 9 months ago

  I met my husband on coffee meets bagel. His favorite story to tell is still how I was on the app for less than a week; he was getting ready to delete the app after being on it for a year.

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  @Quiteinfamous · 9 months ago

  I find that the women who find their husbands on the apps usually find them in the first few people they date. It’s never “I had the apps for 4 years and then met my person”

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