5 Signs You're 'Overdoing' Vulnerability (And How To Stop)

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  @SeekAliveness · 3 years ago

  This was a good reminder that if I share something vulnerable and am not received with the compassion I expect, I am still responsible for regulating myself and need to have a Plan B for self-assurance/regulation

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  @indigoechos6796 · 3 years ago

  Too many rejections has me feeling like i should only be vulnerable with my therapist

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  @MonicaG13 · 3 years ago (edited)

  Yes, learning to receive other&apos;s no with grace, or their actions of &quot;no&quot;. In those times, take a step back, and be your own best friend, your own hero, and be there for yourself. Others are out there who we can be vulnerable and safe with, and we ALWAYS have ourselves, our own company. Self-love. Self-care. Personal Healthy Boundaries for YOU.<br><br>I am also discovering: <br>• ask first, if the person has the &quot;head space&quot; for a vulnerable conversation.<br>• sharing less is better. <br>• explaining less is better.<br>• don&apos;t repeat, repeat, repeat, they heard you the first time.<br>• if the situation is building anxiety, it is ok to excuse yourself, and take some time for yourself.

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  @majaroma · 3 years ago (edited)

  I am 56 years old, and you have taught me things that no parent or author has ever taught me, like how to know I’m over-vulnerable, and how to have a self-love day. I love your enthusiasm and super appreciate the growth I am experiencing from reading your contributions.

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• BR

  @brendashuman7295 · 11 months ago

  As an autistic &nbsp;female i appreciate this explanation SO much!! I&apos;ve been in therapy 5 yrs and this video has literally just helped me see i am incredibly attached to the outcome. Since being autistic can feel very isolating, like youre always trying to understand others first, you dont even realize you self abandon. I&apos;ve been fortunate to have some long term friends in my life, but those same friends I have often felt like I&apos;ve gone above and beyond for and can barely make a dinner commitment to me. I can see now how the resentment built bc it was more me abandoning myself and constantly hoping more vulnerability would make me feel more &quot;seen&quot;. I also have cptsd and the amount of layers of direction btwn the two can be exhausting. The concise, detailed videos you put out here to help those of us who need more information is truly amazing. Thank you❤

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• OZ

  @oznerolyan · 6 months ago

  this gives another thing for my shame to shame myself about when feeling a vulnerability hangover

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  @rosemisatiofficial5428 · 2 years ago

  Resentment comes from a place of self abandonment- powerful.<br>Thanks for sharing this.

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• TS

  @TSAONGAF · 3 years ago

  Mathew Hussey calls reckless vulnerability &nbsp;an &quot;emotional dumping&quot; which i thought was a nice metaphor as well

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  @BbyJewels · 3 years ago

  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m_B3afFDPHc&amp;t=930">15:30</a>-<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m_B3afFDPHc&amp;t=990">16:30</a> about vulnerability, boundaries and neglected anger was my most insightful part

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  @brambleinhabitant · 3 years ago

  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m_B3afFDPHc&amp;t=923">15:23</a> &quot;All of this resentment can build up when we are expecting other people to act in a way that keeps us okay.&quot; And when we don&apos;t fix this within us, we end up forcing our children to act in a way that wouldn&apos;t trigger us. Because of which, they will end up with CPTSD or never developing authenticity because they were never given the safe space to be themselves. And the passing down of the issues continues.

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  @Lynnlyn30 · 2 years ago

  Let me get a pen and &nbsp;a paper and listen to this again

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  @chrisk1938 · 3 years ago

  Lightbulbs went off in my head like a Christmas tree. Thank you Heidi for explaining topics so well and in such a kind manner ❤

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