Toxic Shame: What It Is And How To Heal From It

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  @harlequinesque988 · 3 years ago

  This video just made me realize that I am addicted to self improvement. I am constantly trying to fix something wrong with me, and so long as I'm continually working on myself then I will earn whatever love comes my way. I never stop and trust that anyone loves me as is. It's as if I'm bargaining and apologizing for my existence 100% of the time. Damn that hurts

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  @MaggiDaC · 2 years ago

  "The only way to relax and be authentic is to be alone."  Hearing that is a lot.

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  @redj1101 · 3 years ago

  “Addictive behaviors in the shame-bound person develop as a replacement for human intimacy.”  Wow, I feel called out

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  @tabeabauchspeck600 · 2 years ago

  Holy shit. I just broke down crying. I&apos;ve been working so much on myself for years, I&apos;ve been to therapy twice, and only now all of it finally makes sense. How natural lying comes to me, the addictions, the feeling of being better &amp; smarter &amp; more capable (if I&apos;d choose to try) than people around me while simultaneously thinking of myself as rotten to the core, the frequent meltdowns where I cut off everyone, that I&apos;m very good at talking about vulnerable topics without actually being vulnerable, never having experienced REAL intimacy in all my relashionships, my approaching panic attacks as soon as someone catches a glimpse of &quot;me&quot; behind all my guards and masks and filters, the constant feeling of walking on the edge of a cliff...<br>This changed a lot for me. I feel like I can finally work on the underlying issue rather than patching up symptom after symptom. Thank you so much for this video 💜<br><br>(This is hard to post. Even while opening up I HAVE to have control, every word has to be carefully chosen so no stranger on the internet would ever see sth of me I did not intend to show 🙃)

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  @Beannqueen · 2 years ago

  I&apos;m ashamed of being ashamed. I&apos;m still learning.

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  @sunnofodin · 3 years ago (edited)

  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y47iJrbO2ug&amp;t=869">14:29</a> &quot;To be shame-bound means that from a young age we learned that there was something wrong with the fact that we have feelings.&quot; annnd now I&apos;m crying at work.

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  @dgvfsa66 · 2 years ago

  &quot;Somewhere in the past, your will was broken.&quot; &nbsp;Absolutely true, and absolutely &nbsp;heartbreaking.

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  @annquigley7585 · 3 years ago

  “Core wounds that kicked us off our own teams” that’s a great way of expressing it

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  @missit507 · 2 years ago

  The anxiety I feel due to the shame is so intense.

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  @c1oud555-o4m · 1 year ago

  My social anxiety is just a lot of shame. It’s exhausting. I am ready to break free from shame depression and fear

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  @Chirpy-eo8jq · 3 years ago

  I’ve lived my entire life stuck in fantasy books, and I’m now looking up from 12+ hours every day on fanfiction and realizing that I have an intolerance for staying present. It might be because of ADHD, but I can’t believe that’s all of it. <br>I’ve thought I’m addicted to stories before, but it always felt like an excuse. I want to be the people in my stories. I want to live their lives and have their friends and eat their food and run and jump and cry and laugh as them. Who needs this husk of a body? Who needs this discard of a mind? <br><br>This feels too over the top to post, and I want to delete it, but I also, really, really want to move on. Thank you for posting this video and helping so many people, including myself.

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  @simonwilson7581 · 3 years ago

  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y47iJrbO2ug&amp;t=2220">37:00</a> The most painful part about healing is remembering back to all the moments of self-doubt, and imagining where you would have been in life if it were not for the abuse we suffered.

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