Narcissist Uses You (Starts 16:20): Unfinished Mommy Splitting

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• KI

  @kiwicatnip · 2 years ago

  It’s so weird feeling simultaneously sad for and resentful of the narcissist

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• LU

  @LunaGloom27 · 1 year ago

  I could see this horribly broken, inner child inside my narcissist... my heart aches for who I saw in there, but he broke me.

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• MA

  @mariabennett6668 · 5 years ago

  The minute you interacted with the narcissist you have been body snatched

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• GL

  @globalprincess489 · 5 years ago

  The sad thing about falling into their clutches is they can cause people to neglect other responsibilities. So basically other people suffer when we fall into these people clutches because they can no longer rely on who we were because now we're acting like a freaking fool for the freaking narc

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• ZX

  @zxratd · 4 years ago

  "I couldn't split mommy so I split myself." Wow...

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• GE

  @geralldus · 3 years ago

  The interesting feature of narcissism is that the apparently self absorbed individual is not actually connected to themselves at all, but to an infantile illusion of themselves which is unresolved by mirroring and interaction with a trusted 'other'. Unfortunately the prospect of abandoning this protective carapace is terrifying to the extent that it can never be bought into consciousness. So the narcissist is doomed to live in a strange parasitic world of fantasy and illusion which unfortunately can have disastrous consequences for those who interact with them if they themselves are unaware of the mechanisms at work.

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• TO

  @toekafrank6998 · 5 years ago (edited)

  The Vaknin Horror Show 😅 Aka "A History of Personal Relationships", or "Why I Am a Hermit/Single Forever".

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• PE

  @pennibelgard339 · 5 years ago

  I knew very early in relationship my now ex was a child inside. The action that sealed and validated my suspicion was out of nowhere he wept and threw back his head and wailed...”I neeeedddd yoouuu!”  I knew without a doubt that something was terribly wrong. I feel so incredibly sorry for him ....but after 5 years I had to move on after going through the cyclic NPD playlist several times. I do not hate him...I somehow knew it was his mother who messed him up. Your video has helped me to understand more clearly what I already knew but did not know how to put it all together in words. Thank you.

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• KA

  @kanishky6212 · 5 years ago

  There is a possibility that mother will not let the child realize that she is bad, she will always say that all her problems are due to the child, when she becomes hapy rarely, the child will think that he must have done something good, when she is angry, abusive, frustated etc which is quite often, it will because of the child only. Mother will always substantiate that she is good because she is a mother and she will not do any bad, even to the point of not accepting her obvious day to day mistakes.

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• PA

  @pams6763 · 5 years ago

  Is this why birthdays and holidays are so sucky with a narcissist because these are times of testing?

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• KA

  @Karen19820 · 4 years ago

  I am a 60 year old daughter of narcissist parents and a younger sister. I followed you and kept rewinding the video as I closed my eyes and pictured the times I saw my family behave just as you described. Even as a young child I couldn’t understand their behavior. They were school teachers. My grandmother filled the gap for my care and I always felt she was more like my actual mother. I thank you for helping me understand why they did the things they did, even until death. My mother died 7 months ago, still true to her narcissistic self. Fortunately my sister lives far away so I deal with her seldom. There are others in our family among the cousins who have all the narcissist traits, but no contact is necessary there. I am feeling a sigh of relief that my children and I steered clear of wanting to be with “people like that” for our life partners, and are free.  Knowing and seeing what happened is sweet comfort after all these years. Thank you. ⭐️

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• SA

  @SA-ux3yv · 5 years ago

  What a pleasure to listen to a person with such a wonderful vocabulary in what I assume is not your native tongue.

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