Narcissist’s Two Rejections: Giving, Love, and Abuse

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• KA

  @karenbrown8169 · 3 years ago

  My narcissist said after admitting to his cheating   "are you going to divorce me over this!. Can't you just get over it."

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• PI

  @pirateheart21 · 5 years ago

  You honestly end up not wanting anything from them... it all, no matter the value.... cost your well being far too much...

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• AJ

  @AJ-jf2ui · 5 years ago (edited)

  When your with a narcissist you feel like you've lost yourself. Where did the happy bubbly person go. The narc sucks your energy and life out of you. Isolates you from all the people who care for you. One day they are expressing undying love for you and the next day they hate you with a passion. And the cycle goes like that over and over . No matter what you do for them it's never enough. Get out of the narc relationship. Run and never look back. They are usually addicts of some sort . Sometimes drugs and alcohol combined.  With this combination they are very dangerous and will eventually kill you. Know your worth and leave them.

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• CA

  @Calmerthanyouare17 · 4 years ago (edited)

  It was literally like talking to someone with dementia in never ending circles. He would tell these stories about me as if I had zero recollection or was not present for these events. It was madness.

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• SA

  @sandee4518 · 5 years ago

  My ex was an infantile, uneducated, arrogant domestic abuser. How people can keep talking about narcissists for years is beyond me. You get tired of trying to understand the b.s. people that narcissists are. After a while, you don’t even care to learn about what makes them tick because they are contradicting and make no sense. And they don’t see it or get it. They never will. It’s all a waste of time.

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• LA

  @lanasmith2500 · 5 years ago

  So very true. I had known the narcissist when we were teenagers. We met again many years later as adults. I struggled for months to see him as an adult. I couldn't feel it, I couldn't sense it. Till this day I never saw this adult. He is a boy, forever a child trapped inside a man's body.

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• MF

  @MF-bd1rj · 4 years ago

  Professor Sam is a rockstar when it comes to explaining Narcissistic abuse.

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• RE

  @RecoveryTrauma · 1 year ago

  My food was literally falling out of my mouth hearing this – I had the exact same experience. The narcissist stalked me, accused me of cheating, and then planned the discard. I later saw in his messages to another guy he’d hired to stalk me: ’I hope she kisses someone else, and I’m gonna f* her up.’ That moment broke something in me. I’ve never been treated like this by anyone else in my life. It’s deep trauma, and I have BPD, which made the discard even more devastating. I want to make more videos about the BPD/narcissist discard dynamic because people have no idea how dark and twisted it gets

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• M3

  @m3ntyb · 5 years ago

  That would make sense why they always seem to come back around after abuse and abandonment as if nothing meaningful or traumatizing really occurred or could have affected you. In their mind, nothing worth anything really happened since it was just childish testing of parental devotion.

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• AR

  @arturodiaz1063 · 5 years ago

  Narcissists claim before others interested in them having many friends. And yet when they seriously need someone you don't see their friends. You don't even see their family.

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• CA

  @Canaday291 · 5 years ago

  The abusive malignant narcissist I was married to grew up in a narcissistic family with a highly verbally and physically abusive cheating dad as their sadistic leader and his abuse became normalized.<br> History repeated itself in my ex as he became the carbon copy twin of his evil dad

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• LA

  @laurarader6846 · 5 years ago

  He gives, you accept but you didn&apos;t see the attached price tag, terms of agreement and the limited liability clause. He gives, you accept and you now, unbeknownst to yourself, have signed the forever i.o.u. I hold said documents from my father (since I was two) and ex narc I was with for 17 years. Eleven years later the tethers are still in place. So I come here, repeatedly, to Sam Vaknin, for a pep talk and validation.

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