Her Unbelievable Plan to Make an Avoidant Man Say ‘I Do’!

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• IW

  @iwishyouknewpodcast · 1 year ago · pinned

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• CO

  @ConnectConnsultant · 1 year ago

  You should interview his wife to get her take on this. 🎉

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• SS

  @sshuteandrew · 1 year ago

  Even though he was avoidant, he was an avoidant who was ready willing, and able, and that makes all the difference. He was willing to commit and be open to communication and even seek help from others. Those are all very difficult things for an avoidant to embrace.

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• CR

  @CreativeT600 · 1 year ago

  “Who does she have to be to earn that love?” The most triggering and repulsive question that came out within the first 2 minutes of this episode almost made me turn it off. But I’m glad that I didn’t.. the conversation as a whole was great. As a former anxious attached person, that question is so triggering to me because that way of thinking is unfortunately what fuels anxious attachment, and it’s that self depreciating way of thinking that women need to “break up” with. I’m glad that the episode turned around to reveal that the opposite is actually true… women don’t need to jump through hoops to “earn” anything, we &nbsp;just need to be authentic and stand firm on our standards. The right partner will step up to the challenge rather than expecting us to abandon ourselves or our values.

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• NA

  @nash5844 · 1 year ago

  This sounds exhausting

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• LI

  @limonali · 1 year ago

  This honestly sounds like a controlled and controlling nightmare.

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• MA

  @mariannami8049 · 1 year ago

  What an emotionally complicated relationship. I feel I’m walking on eggshells just by listening to this interview. Not my type of a man. ❤

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• DE

  @desertbluesplaylist7550 · 1 year ago

  Andrey makes me feel exhausted - so much overthinking - yet grateful for his insights into &quot;the dismissive avoidant&quot; . Hopefully his new marriage will bring him more peace

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• AN

  @AngelinaLilas · 1 year ago

  you describe a Proverbs 31 Woman 😊 God knows whats best. The men need to be like the description in Ephesians 5 👍🏼

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• TH

  @TheNonaDiva · 1 year ago

  Why i don&apos;t feel too much love in this relation? Is all about his needs.., conditions.., all calculated.

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• MA

  @MamaLuccaMeditations · 1 year ago

  Around 36 1/2 minutes things start to get a little weird. Women are almost being characterized as a burden for being women. We. Are. Emotional. If a man cannot hold space for our emotions, and if he cannot stay regulated when we are in our feelings, then men are just asking us to relate to them like other men, not like women. I’m not suggesting anything that would be a diagnosis code like histrionic behavior, but Asking women to relate to men like other men is not good for us. I think there are some really good nuggets of information about how a woman can be attractive to an avoidant man, but what is he doing to lean into those types of avoidant moments? Telling a woman to be emotionless puts us in our masculine energy and it’s very stressful for us.

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• ME

  @melissa-logic78 · 6 months ago

  The women in these comments who are quick to call this man a narcissist or arrogant or a nightmare must not know someone who is suffering with the trauma that creates an avoidant attachment style. He is being pretty open with his emotions and the logic behind his decisions and that in itself is huge. &nbsp;This man has come a long way so I don&apos;t think people should be so harsh and judgemental. I wish all people could get to this place where he is after 30 years of trauma and now hard at work, working on himself so he can be a good father and husband

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