The Hidden Reasons Why Marriages Fail | Findings from My Work as a Therapist

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  @StephAnya · 2 years ago · pinned

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  @bulelwamahura · 2 years ago

  1. Want to fix partner<br>2. Ignoring impact of the past<br>3. Expecting partner to be everything <br>4. Minimising partner&apos;s values<br>5. Unintentional about intimacy<br>6. Lack of premarital counseling<br><br>This is useful. Thank you, Steph

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  @annannanna-h1n · 2 years ago

  I just had to comment… HAIR! Ok now I can watch the video 😂

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  @neami784 · 2 years ago

  would love a video on pre-marital counseling questions to discuss if you don’t have one already!

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  @_justyessyy_ · 2 years ago

  I noticed that when I was the only one doing individual therapy along with couples therapy, I was the only one talking in couples therapy. My husband didn’t have the language or practice talking about his feelings, so he would just agree or go along with what I said. We stopped couples therapy and both did individual therapy, and that greatly improved our communication. We have been able to make huge improvements on our own and only see a couples therapist when we’re not able to resolve a conflict on our own. We found out the problem was we had different coping and communication styles.

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  @RafScrap · 2 years ago

  Ah, sometimes the childhood pattern thing feels so hopeless because it&apos;s overwhelming to know how deep those old scars go. Thank you always for these insightful videos.

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  @creativeopinions8250 · 2 years ago

  It&apos;s sad that a huge chunk of the time we spend in this world is to trying to connect with another human but once we&apos;ve got each other we don&apos;t know how to keep each other...

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  @amyspeers8012 · 2 years ago

  Celebrated our 32nd anniversary last June. Around year 3, after the birth of our only child, we hit a rough patch. I went to counseling on my own and it was a game changer. I still have some of the things she we talked about in my mind. We did go to couples counseling as well. That person was awful! She was pushing her books, telling us to read them and never really asked us things, or so we felt. We ended up laughing so hard after the sessions, grabbing dinner together and REALLY communicating. That made the difference. My parents also have said over the years how important being your own person is and being able to talk with each other.

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  @aspyn.j_ · 2 years ago (edited)

  watching even tho i&apos;m single because research

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  @Dlibassi93 · 2 years ago

  I’ve always been shocked by friends who don’t know about their spouses childhoods or young adult experiences and traumas. It’s been so key in understanding how my husband and I communicate and perceive things &nbsp;and in turn how we have a successful relationship

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  @krystalgoethe8007 · 2 years ago

  I feel like A LOT of people break up due to reason #2. A lot of people need some individual counseling, badly.

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  @_Just_Jess_ · 2 years ago

  I could not stop staring at how beautiful your hair is.... 😍<br><br>My husband and I are coming up on 5 years and I really appreciate your tips on not making the other person your &quot;everything&quot;. I&apos;ll be doing some reflecting on that. ❤

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