Rupture & Repair 101: Why Some Relationships Grow Through Conflict And Others Fall Apart

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  @denim_ak · 9 months ago

  She’s back 🎉

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• EM

  @emilygetsstrong · 9 months ago

  love the idea that repair only works when we stop abandoning ourselves and come back to the relationship as whole people.

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• BA

  @BarbeChenue · 9 months ago (edited)

  I need to tell you: when I was at the worst point in my substance use, in my worst panic attacks on stimulants, I would listen to your voice to calm me down through the storm of my psyche. Deep in the throes of addiction, I would remember to plug in my headphones to listen to your channel. There&apos;s no way to express my feeling of debt and gratefulness for you. Thank you!<br>Edit: sober since december 28th 2024 💪

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• ST

  @stevenjlovelace · 9 months ago

  Glad you&apos;re back. About a year ago I went through the worst depressive episode/midlife crisis of my life, also losing my job, my mom, my home, my car, and my credit rating. And here I still am, living with my widowed dad and driving an ugly but drivable car and working a fun part-time job while interviewing for full-time with benefits still. Your videos on depression and healing really helped me along the way, and I wish you all the luck on your healing journey.

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• SA

  @samguyindula2983 · 9 months ago

  And she is back when the world needed her the most

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• OA

  @oambitiousone7100 · 9 months ago (edited)

  Every Heidi video, I get 1/3 to halfway through and know I&apos;m going to turn around and listen to it all over again

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• AN

  @ant3le · 9 months ago

  Hosting a monthly Heidi Priebe discussion group in my hometown at the moment! ❤️

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• VI

  @virtualemdr · 9 months ago

  Relationships can actually grow stronger when both people are willing to take responsibility and rebuild trust.

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• WA

  @wangmaykin · 9 months ago (edited)

  Fundamentally, it requires both parties to want to work on it. If one perpetually does not take accountability and shows no interest to resolve the conflict in a healthy manner, then nothing can be repaired. When a rupture happens it takes a lot more effort to repair and it is easier to walk away.

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  @MarleyLeMar · 9 months ago

  Developing a mature relationship starts with co-regulated handling of conflict, rupture and repair. And that&apos;s just the beginning of what you had hoped for. When two independent people with secure attachment (either &quot;native&quot;--normal healthy development, or &quot;earned&quot;--therapeutic level growth) begin to work toward the greater good of the relationship itself, their connection evolves into a living creation that continuously enhances the family, the community, the future, and a deeply centered happiness along the way. Differences (that don&apos;t become self-defensive) become doors that open up new perspectives and possibilities that a mature relationship in unity has the capacity to make coherent and act on, so everyone wins.

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  @StefSolaire · 9 months ago

  Your videos have been so incredibly helpful as I recover from an abusive childhood and abusive marriage. I&apos;m finally in a healthy relationship and it&apos;s hard! I have to be vulnerable and stand up for myself and practice all these new relational skills that were never modeled for me and were genuinely unsafe before. My partner and I went through a really difficult time a few months ago and instead of running away or getting angry, we got curious with one another and I feel so much closer to her as a result. I didn&apos;t know it was possible to get closer to someone through conflict

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  @oambitiousone7100 · 9 months ago (edited)

  I had a 25 yr marriage of avoiding conflict (maybe blowing up once every 5 years). It was fatal. I suppressed to the point of feeling way more comfortable and authentic when he was not around.

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