the wedding industry is out of control 😳 | Internet Analysis

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• TI

  @tiffanyferg · 4 years ago · pinned

  ok tbh I just wanted an excuse to chat about weddings so let's get into it!! part two will be about wedding reality shows, so if you have any suggestions, plz share. thank u!! :-)

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• EE

  @eerenay · 4 years ago

  Hot weddding reuse tip: For my wedding, I went to a non profit thrift store in a "rich grandma" part of town and got a ton of glass vases and bowls for our flowers and guest snacks. They were like 1-3 dollars a piece. Nothing matched, but that was the vibe of the wedding anyway. In total, I spent like 50 dollars. Then after the wedding, I donated it all back to the thrift store. My money went to helping ex-convicts re-enter society. I thought that  move was really slick.

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• LL

  @llandriel5028 · 4 years ago

  We initially disappointed both of our families by deciding to get married at the town hall. On a Tuesday afternoon. <br>We reserved the upstairs floor of tea room for a couple of hours. I bought my dress from TJ Maxx . The initial uproar from select members of the family was childish and venomous.<br>I received a “for nine months I carried you” letter from my mother, who then took to her bed to rest her poor nerves.<br>In reality the day was lovely and a pleasant surprise for those who showed up. The whole affair lasted about 3 hours and, after sending our guests away with cupcake favours, got changed and jumped on a train to the seaside for the night.<br>In truth, life hasn’t been all that easy in the eight years since we got married. But when I need to look for light in dark places, memories of my wedding day fills my heart.

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• EC

  @eclecticreads3 · 4 years ago

  I think it&apos;s important to note that in cultures where opulent weddings are the norm, entire families foot the bill for the wedding. Whereas in the US it is quite common for the couple to pay for the wedding without much external support.

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• XA

  @XatxiFly · 4 years ago

  One of the more cursed straight culture things is how we expect the bride alone to do the bulk of the planning, or even all of it. &nbsp;There&apos;s a reason event planning is a whole industry of full-time professionals.<br><br>Even if you somehow have zero angst over the aesthetics and particulars of your OWN WEDDING, even a modest event can be a <b>staggering</b> amount of work - advanced executive logistical shuffling, <b>deeply</b> complex social management, detailed research and smooth business dealings, to say nothing of the damned budgeting.<br><br>I truly loathe how we give women this message that the wedding will represent their crowning achievement as a person and therefore must be exquisite, then absolve men of any responsibility to collaborate equally on the labor, then mock and scold any woman who seems stressed out or &quot;overinvested&quot; in the process as a Bridezilla. &nbsp;You <b>told her</b> this is all she is as a person and that she has to do it without help, and now you get to laugh at her for not handling her demeaning pigeonholing with some kind of sublime Christian grace.

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• DA

  @daisy.52446 · 4 years ago

  My husband and I got married young. We had no money, our parents had no money, and I refused to take out a loan for a wedding. So we had an extremely small wedding of only about 25 people and we had a meal in the church basement afterward that my mom and I cooked. To this day, many relatives make me feel guilty about that choice and it makes me so angry!

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• IT

  @iTzDritte · 4 years ago

  My wife and I wanted to elope, but her parents would’ve killed us. Oh well, at least they’re the ones who footed the $50K bill.

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• TA

  @tamooz6649 · 4 years ago

  I feel like &quot;outfit repeating&quot; is more of a class issue. Being a kid growing up in a poor household, you wear what you have until it gets holes/stretches/marks, then it becomes pajamas 😂. So I never have a problem outfit repeating I think the people that call someone out for repeating an outfit have never had to think about the price/quantity of their clothes

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• JR

  @JRey28 · 4 years ago

  To add to the conversation, at least in a heteronormative wedding, there is a vast disparity in the division of labor in the planning that is of course gendered.

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• UN

  @unamejames · 4 years ago

  With regard to your &quot;community buy in&quot; theory, I had a history professor that did a lecture on why medieval rituals like coronations and weddings were so weird, public, and long/involved. This is how contracts were made among people who were largely illiterate in a time when there was no reliable record keeping. To be married, you needed dozens if not hundreds of people to remember seeing your families willingly and ritualistically consent to the agreement. So back then, this type of pomp performativity was EVERYTHING.

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• GG

  @gghhpuf · 4 years ago

  My aunt&apos;s wedding was the most traditional one I&apos;ve ever been to. It was in a little town in Spain, and both my aunt and my uncle were from that town. The reception was in our house, but decorated with A LOT of plants, all lended by the neighbours for that day. The ceremony was at the church (which is hundreds of years old) and the eating and drinking at the town&apos;s plaza. There were no material gifts, only money to pay a bit the expenses of the wedding. Also there is a tradition before the wedding where the groom &nbsp;and his friends go to the bride doorstep to sing to her, the night before the wedding. Almost the whole town was invited of course. My dad also told me that back then, it was the neighbours who came together to make the food for the wedding... I wouldn&apos;t want a wedding &nbsp;as big as that but I still think it is really lovely

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• LA

  @lane6216 · 4 years ago

  Over 21 years ago my husband and I got married. We wanted something very small and intimate, but didn’t know how to accomplish that without upsetting everyone on both sides of our family. We had it at a historical house, with a max allowable guest list of 25 people. My idea. Genius. We paid $250 for the house rental, $100 for my bouquet, $30 for the cake, and $50 for his tux rental. His parents paid for the food for the reception, held right down the road at the small historic restaurant that was linked to the house, and my mother paid for my wedding dress. We had it in the evening. It was so cozy and personal. It was perfect.

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