Oxford Psychiatrist: The FASTEST Way to Stop ADHD Rejection Sensitivity

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  @RSoos68 · 4 months ago (edited)

  Dissociation to me is a safety mechanism. Loneliness is less painful than rejection. Not starting a task is better than failing at it. Not saying something is better than being judged or laughed at for it. It’s an unhealthy strategy but it seems reasonable at the time. Thanks for this podcast. This chat really resonated with me. I’m really struggling at the moment and hearing I’m not the only one who experiences the world this way is a small comfort.

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• SA

  @sarahpeters347 · 4 months ago

  When my son was 14 he had a heartbreaking life moment that sent me into a mama bear rage that completely overwhelmed my body and brain. Neither one of us had been diagnosed fully, but have since learned about out adhd+. <br>He had been struggling through school and felt like huge disappointment to everyone and FINALLY going to be able to go to the excellent local tech school, which had a Marine Deisel program that was a perfect fit. The boy had been repairing and building things since he could hold a fork. At five he’d be up at 6 am mowing the lawn with a rotary mower. He was unstoppable. <br>At the interview for the tech school the first thing out of the interviewer’s mouth was that he was unlikely to be accepted because his history grade was poor. He was stricken. Unable to hold back his emotions, he walked out of the interview. Turns out the school had a great engineering program, so all the would-be engineers applied and took all the spots. The school that was built for the outsiders was sending them away, increasing their sense of failure. <br>I was so furious, and I couldn’t understand the physical pain I felt for him. I can only imagine how he felt. Now it makes sense. Thank you for covering this. <br><br>BTW, he managed to muddle through and get his GED. He has since become a welder and just got asked to become shop supervisor, at age 26. When he was asked to come to the office for a talk he thought he was being fired. He’s only now realizing that people think he’s awesome. ❤

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• MI

  @MindyZielfelderArt · 2 months ago (edited)

  Alex, I started reading your book. &nbsp;I think there&apos;s nuance to the idea that children develop RSD as a result of 20,000 criticisms by age 10. For high masking, &quot;good girls&quot; who pre-emptively avoid criticisms for their survival, I feel this leaves out the fact that RSD originates via a biological mechanism that is exacerbated by criticism. &nbsp;<br><br>RSD is widely considered by specialists to be rooted in the intrinsic wiring of the ADHD nervous system. People with ADHD process emotions differently and intensely; their brains have trouble regulating the emotional &quot;volume&quot; of rejection.<br><br>I was an A student whose brother was diagnosed with ADD. &nbsp;He was always told, &quot;why can&apos;t you be more like your sister.&quot; However, <b>I</b> struggled intensely with RSD growing up and am now getting my ADHD assessment at 51.

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• NE

  @Neurosyvergence · 4 months ago

  Thanks for keeping it free and not doing a members only package where we have to wait for days before being allowed to freely watch the content 🙌 💛

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• AD

  @adamxthornton · 3 months ago

  You have a lot of podcasts explaining what RSD is and how it affects you but there’s never much information on how to overcome it, we need podcasts diving deep on how to overcome it

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• JE

  @jellyfuzzer · 4 months ago

  It makes me feel paranoid and so unhappy. RSD is awful &nbsp;because you second guess every, single interaction, just in case you may have done something to make people hate you.

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  @dancingdruid7932 · 4 months ago

  My chest burns, I get nauseated, my face overheats, and when it&apos;s really bad I get tunnel vision. I&apos;m 65 years old and I&apos;m only now learning that, no, I&apos;m not over-sensitive, and yes, this is legitimage.

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• SA

  @sallyjones1213 · 4 months ago

  Ambiguity has been my biggest nemesis for my whole life, and I have a remarkable ability to find the ambiguity in almost any situation. 😖 My biggest fear (for as long as I can remember) is the fear of being or doing something wrong.

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• SA

  @sally_mack_ · 4 months ago

  I have to hold my phone tight every time I walk over a footbridge because I get a compulsive urge to throw my phone in the water😊

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• TH

  @thesmugroup · 4 months ago

  I hadn’t realized that my slipping into the accents of others so easily, or taking on the feelings or emotions of others was a symptom of something. It’s so difficult when someone around me will blow up in anger about something, but then be fine five minutes later, and I’m still carrying the physical body response of that anger, even when it’s never directed at me.

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• RA

  @radstevens · 4 months ago

  Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) in ADHD is an intense, overwhelming emotional pain triggered by perceived rejection, criticism, or failure<br><br>[Should be in the descriptor]

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• AR

  @art0991a · 4 months ago (edited)

  I vividly remember my emotional pain in my youth when I felt unfairly judged or rejected, only to be accused of drowning myself in self-pity and that I should stop, because there are people out there with much worse problems than mine. To this day family would still call my reactions ridiculous, making matters so much worse

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