The Shocking Way You Keep Pushing People Away (And Don’t Even Know It)

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• CL

  @clairelist1060 · 11 months ago

  Thank you for this. I recently lost my job due to my unregulated emotions, and I needed to hear this. I want to be better, and I will be

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• AN

  @ancientgate · 11 months ago

  I got an apology I waited 30 years for it did absolutely nothing to make me feel better. What did make me feel better is the daily practice. I’ve been able to stop blaming other people for the way I feel today. It’s so FREEING to have this kind of control over myself.

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• PU

  @Punky101-m3h · 11 months ago

  Yes it's true, this is why I am a loner. But I'm a happy little loner LOL. Got a nice apartment I can afford with all the amenities, got my first pet, my cat Punky, got my part-time job, and an electric bike. I take myself on dates, my favorite is dinner and a rock concert. When you only need one ticket, you can be sure it's a great one! I'm not dealing with people anymore. I'm just not. Hats off to people that want and need friends, but that ain't me. As someone said, loneliness is a part of life, not a way of life. And honestly, when I do everything I'm supposed to do in the way of self-care and everything else, there's just not a lot of time to be lonely. Thankfully.

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• WE

  @weareallone-zw3qh · 11 months ago

  Your hair looks great! You are absolutely glowing with health in this video. (Couldn't help but notice).

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• GA

  @Gabbist · 11 months ago

  Even the demoralized and unconfident deserve respect and closeness, those good things should not be only for the strong and healed.

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• CA

  @carolineoconnor2461 · 11 months ago

  Worst thing you can do is put shame and even more self consciousness on people who already feel terrible about themselves. Get them to focus on the other person and not the 'bad vibes' they are giving off.

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• TH

  @TheBoogeyMan1865 · 11 months ago (edited)

  Even as someone who is partially blind and cannot see body language, and have childhood trauma myself, I can say that yes even though I can’t see facial expressions or body language, I can still sense when someone has low self worth and esteem no matter how happy they sound in their voice or how hard they try to put it on. I think part of how I sense this is because I’m sensitive and have trauma myself and can feel others energy etc. And I also have tried to pretend everything’s good, and I have one vision impaired friend that can tell how I really feel straight away, and she has even said to me I might not be able to see you, but I still know somethings up with you. So yes even vision impaired people can sense things about someone, maybe even sense things some perfectly sighted people cannot lol.

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• VA

  @ValMat83 · 11 months ago

  Nobody can tell when I am not okay. They can’t tell. I have a Teflon mask that I am not proud of, but nobody understands me anyway.

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• BU

  @Buster-im5so · 11 months ago (edited)

  'Baby, you give good love'. I hope to reciprocate this love. In reality, it's all about the change within. You know, the problems in your life. See? Being ignored, abused, etc. causes changes in our brains. I'm a 66 year old recognized who's running the show inside my brain so I can improve my thoughts concerning life. My Life.

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• GA

  @garymahon1954 · 10 months ago

  Im 71, and my 3 older toxic siblings have been against me and guilt tripping me to help them all my life.

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• RH

  @rhondab9792 · 11 months ago

  I push people away because I've learned through repeated experience and betrayal that all of us are somewhere on the damaged/self-centered scale. Most folks are at their best when they think you can give them something: money, status, laughs.   The authentic me finds it best to be friendly, but reserved.

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• PA

  @patricknorris6873 · 11 months ago

  OK I get it....people know how  messed up I am and don't want to get close to me...

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