10 Shocking Signs That's NOT LOVE, It's Limerence

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  @Daniela-ti9tt · 4 months ago

  I’m starting to believe that all crushes I ever had were limerence

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• SY

  @SyaminiKaushik · 1 year ago

  avoidance -> limerance -> maladapting daydreaming -> self sabotage -> depression

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• YS

  @Ysckemia · 1 year ago

  i'm 7 minutes in and i wish i had seen this video 4 decades ago.

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• YA

  @yazistan · 1 year ago

  Grief is a huuuuuge limerence trigger for many people.  It offers an escape from a horrible pain and the hopeful promise of a new wonderful person entering your life and fixing it all and taking away all the pain. The Knight in shining armor, here to rescue you from all your darkness

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• RO

  @RoadRunnergarage8570 · 1 year ago

  I'm learning to embrace being alone...

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• KA

  @Karolin-h5d · 1 year ago (edited)

  People should talk more about limerence/toxic relationships in fiction. I loved Friends and that toxic Ross/Rachel story when I was a teenager ☹ Ross was abusive, suffocating and jealous after Rachel found a job that she liked. She needed a break and a few hours later he sleeps with somebody else, blames Rachel and justifies it by &quot;we were on a break&quot;. Then months later he lovebombs another woman, marries her, and treats her badly too. And poor Rachel can&apos;t let go of Ross (how does he move on so fast when he said he loves me?!)<br>All these &quot;love stories&quot; are supposed to be romantic but they are harmful. I was alone a lot when I was a kid and watched these shows, soap operas. Those really weren&apos;t good for me. It is so messed up especially when you don&apos;t have healthy role models.

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• HO

  @HolyGround777 · 1 year ago

  I have struggled with Limerence my whole life. Thankfully I have been able to keep it under control and basically gone by expanding my life. Showing up for my friends, doing well at my job and getting into a relationship with a great and honest man. Wishing all the people watching this video the best❤

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• LI

  @lillianbarker4292 · 1 year ago

  Limerence is like I imagine heroin to be. The feeling is magical. It has hit me at different points in my life. It nearly hurt my marriage. I avoid rom-coms and I read nonfiction. But your videos help.

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• KR

  @KristaAndersonPhilipps · 11 months ago

  I&apos;ve binge watched your material - and you are single handedly helping me heal in a way that dozens of therapists, multiple forms of types of therapy, medicine, etc. couldn&apos;t do. &nbsp;I don&apos;t know how to thank you enough. &nbsp;I feel like you have understood my heart and trauma in a way that nobody ever has and I&apos;m so grateful.

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• AL

  @alishak4061 · 1 year ago

  I never knew there was a word for this! I have been &quot;infatuated&quot; with this guy for almost 20 years. He&apos;s the only one I&apos;ve been with for 9 years. He constantly reminds me we&apos;ve never been together. However, he comes around, (even after years) and I just melt. I know there&apos;s no chance. I don&apos;t even want anything but there is just something about him that I cant shake. My mother was unalived when I was 13 so I definitely have ptsd. I&apos;m going to study this word limerance more instead of focusing on him. He treats me like I&apos;m a revolving door and I let him. I don&apos;t have to anymore.

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• NI

  @NigerianBeautyQueen · 1 year ago

  You are doing God&apos;s work. You helped put a name to what I experienced for over 5 years. I&apos;m now in a healthy relationship that&apos;s grounded in reality after crushing seriously on unavailable men for years. You are helping so many people to pull themselves into reality.

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• TS

  @TSixSix · 1 year ago

  Unfortunately this been my whole life

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