Is It Limerence Or True Love? 5 Ways To Tell

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  @CoHzus · 3 years ago

  all my homies love and appreciate heidi priebe's content

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  @Reddragons111 · 2 years ago

  My limerance doesnt start until their attention becomes intermittent or the month or so after a break up. Ive realized this is my way to handle abandonment anxiety 😮

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  @tedjones1021 · 3 years ago

  I thought the tweet you were going to bring up was the one that said "Dating is really just finding someone whose parents fucked them up in a compatible way to how your parents fucked you up." - but I suppose that's more leaning into attachment theory lol

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  @KayNoel19 · 3 years ago

  I’m questioning if I’ve ever actually been in love before now.

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  @klb1193 · 3 years ago (edited)

  After learning about limerence, attachment style, CPTSD, etc. I am scared that I will always be attracted to unhealthy people. I dated someone secure who started to feel boring and predictable, which became dull and annoying. My next relationship was so limerent, toxic, anxious/avoidant but I felt it was thrilling. Is there hope for me to heal enough to become genuinely attracted to healthy people without feeling bored? And if so, how can I do that?<br><br>Words cannot express my gratitude to you for all that you do, Heidi. You are one of the brightest beacons of light on my healing journey, and I tell pretty much everyone I know about your channel.

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  @Sugimotojustamortal · 2 years ago

  I don’t think I’ve laughed out loud to myself so much during a psychology vid. Felt like I was being read for filth with every question 😭😭 mouth hanging open as I get reality checked, this is the brutally honest support I needed, thank you

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  @bud7551 · 3 years ago

  Wow. By this understanding, I don&apos;t think I&apos;ve ever felt romantic love. 🙁

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  @SethWilson · 3 years ago

  The sun shining out of someone’s butt gives the word “honeymoon” a (w)hole new meaning.

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  @BrandonOutside · 3 years ago

  I’ve always been a big fan of the show Frasier, and there’s a great quote in an episode: “you weren’t in love WITH her, you were in love AT her.” And while in the show it does work out for those characters in the end, I think that’s a great quote to use to check in with ourselves.

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  @anzelaiv · 3 years ago

  Great video. Experiencing the opposite of limerence isn&apos;t any better. You are actively looking for red flags and fear trusting your own or your partner&apos;s feelings, hurting both in the process, and being in a relationship with a limerent partner feels as if you are not chosen for who you are and there&apos;s no genuine interest to get to know you as a person, you are there to play an imagined predetermined role which has very little to do with the real you. That&apos;s basically every avoidant/anxious relationship, at least at the beginning. No wonder we hurt each other so much.

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  @valentinavsl4148 · 3 years ago (edited)

  The pain of all this for me is that I fear that I&apos;ll never have the real love partner and compatible relationship in my life

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  @SlicedInPosts · 3 years ago (edited)

  Q1. How big is the gap between the way the relationship exists in your mind vs. what it actually is in reality? <br>(Obsessively thinking about romantic fantasies existing way into the future)<br>Q2. Am I genuinely open to finding out info about this person that would disqualify them as a potential partner? <br>Q3. Am I aware of potential problems that may arise out of this dynamic? <br>Q4. What do I want from this person in reality vs. psychologically? And how realistic are my psychological expectations of them?<br>Q5. How different do you feel about yourself when you imagine being loved by this person vs not being loved by this relationship? <br>(If they don’t reciprocate your affection, does it raise questions on your self concept, self esteem or self worth?)

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