Rob Rinder reads a judge's moving letter to two children after a bitter custody case

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  @NunziaGirasole · 2 years ago

  "I don't believe your Dad meant to be mean to you. He just didn't think about how you would feel".  What??!!

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  @gurusmurf5921 · 2 years ago

  I don't know all the specifics of the situation but this letter made my skin crawl and has left me feeling a little nauseated. It's giving me flash backs of the times that well meaning people tried to pressure me into reuniting with my abusive parents. The incredible damage these people did to my life and mental health out of ignorance and arrogance. Being a sperm donor is not the same thing as being a father.

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  @sharonsekhon9475 · 2 years ago

  Some parents should never have access to their kids.

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  @thedarkdane7 · 2 years ago

  May I suggest that treating his children horribly, even if his intentions were not bad, DOES make him a bad father (or guilty of bad fathering at times). If the dad's intentions were not bad, that matters; but intentions are not enough. Lacking bad intentions does not mean one is successfully raising and nurturing the next generation. Lacking bad intentions does not mean one is not inflicting life-long harm. Fathers can have wakeup calls and can change for the better, but how about the dad getting help for a few months and then assessing whether or not he is improving before making the choice that he should have access to his kids.

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  @mellie4174 · 2 years ago

  Former social worker here.... Couldn't agree more. As a society we care more about parent's rights to own thier child than the child's to emotional and physical safety

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  @michaelvincent7115 · 2 years ago

  This letter sounds very much like a lack of perspective and knowledge of the situation by someone who is trained in law but not child psychology. While im sure he was well-meaning, he instead makes the same mistake many ppl in stable home situations make by assuming that this can get better if the father just tries hard enough. Incomplete assessments make for bad consequences

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  @Carthage_o.o · 2 years ago

  There is so much missing context here. The letter is well written, and the reading is excellent, but lacks any actual details of the custody situation. So it just sounds like a judge telling kids to see their abusive father, despite them stating that they don't want to.

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  @axionth27sharonannKendel-jk6ot · 1 year ago

  The judge who wrote this letter has a wonderful way of explaining these decisions to the children and why. What a wonderful judge

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  @lilbirdz-tube · 2 years ago

  That judge was wrong, wrong, wrong.

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  @donnadunaway5670 · 2 years ago

  My ex told me his ex brother-in-law only paid $20 a week for his child support for his daughter I asked him if your kids are only worth $20 a week….he didn’t have an answer.

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  @BiblicallyAccurateScapegoat · 2 years ago

  My parent was arrested when I was 14. The police did nothing with us. They came to search the house while we waited for our natural born guardian to return from wherever. it was the first sign of their wherabouts. They moved around us, not looking at us in the face, while they took knives to all our furniture and cracked open all of our appliances. <br>They ignored our questions while dismantling our (rented) cabinets and windows. &nbsp;My parent had been arrested with some drugs on them while they were stealing some copper wire from a defunct and shuttered facility for the national guard. &nbsp;<br>They left us there after, in our shattered (rented) home until the landlord came by to let us know that if the rent wasn&apos;t paid, we would have to leave. My sibling was 10 years old. We had nowhere to go. &nbsp;I wrote off my parent then. I wrote off a lot of things that I had once thought good or important. This hadn&apos;t been the first atrocity. My parent died a few months ago, after 26 years of me not speaking to them and rarely thinking of them. I was better for it. Some people shouldn&apos;t have had kids. Some things you can&apos;t take back.

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  @circonflexechess · 2 years ago

  Wow, this letter really makes me feel uneasy... This letter to an adult is already quite difficult to handle, but to a child, that&apos;s pure manipulation !<br>I really believe that the point of justice is to protect people, not to obey to some arbitrary &quot;sacred&quot; law based on traditions.<br>Having a good dad is a great thing in life. But if you don&apos;t, there is no point to force people to have a dad at all, whatever customs and traditions may says.<br>When a child is unhappy, he is saying so. And when problem grows even bigger and the child stop speaking at all, he keps demonstrate so.<br>Being a parent is a gigantic responsibility. It is normal to fail at it. But it is not normal to force children to suffer from it.<br><br>Yet, forcing the dad to write a monthly letter is a good thing, for at least child can keep having choice to see him in futur if they want to.

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