7 Ways Avoidant Men Test You to Decide if You're Worth It

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• KA

  @kayxam8852 · 6 months ago

  Dating an avoidant man was the worst decision I’ve ever made. All he did was protect himself at the cost of me and my nervous system. Never again.

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• AL

  @alargebagofmoney · 6 months ago

  To pass the avoidant tests, become a hostage negotiator. Basically.

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• DR

  @DreamingCatStudio · 6 months ago

  It’s time avoidants grow up, get therapy, stop testing AND for anxious to grow up, learn how to communicate boundaries, and leave if abused. Life is short. All of this suffering is too much.

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• NO

  @noneya9035 · 6 months ago

  You couldn’t pay me to give you my peaceful single life, to date this type of man.  Pass

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• AL

  @alargebagofmoney · 6 months ago

  This attachment style’s behavior is fucked. It’s so mean. This person doesn’t deserve someone who is going to go to such lengths to keep them in their life my goodness.

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• RE

  @reelokiemama · 6 months ago (edited)

  What a dangerous narrative to encourage people to compromise themselves to let someone else have complete and total peace while destroying their own. THEY NEED THERAPY. It’s like trying to have an adult relationship with a bipolar toddler 🤦‍♀️

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• AL

  @alargebagofmoney · 6 months ago

  This person is literally so high maintenance and they are projecting upon their partner that high maintenance. They fear high maintenance yet are they themselves SO much.

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• AL

  @alargebagofmoney · 6 months ago

  I honestly have no real idea how to handle this person. All this behavior from them is so triggering .

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• J_

  @J_Saucee · 4 months ago (edited)

  After reconnecting with someone from my past recently, attachment style has once again resurfaced.<br>I got up to the <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l8YOrXd5vpc&amp;t=1350">22:30</a> mark and realised that as someone with highly secure attachment (according to Adams test) I just don’t have the F***s to give for the level of strategy required for bonding with insecure types anymore. God bless the clarity of perimenopause!

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• SA

  @sasb3675 · 5 months ago

  This really looks like mastering emotional self control — when you become truly secure in yourself and regulated, nothing really shakes you because you know it’s not personal, ironically this is the energy that is magnetic to all attachment styles and you won’t even need to strategise, just existing in how you are becomes an incredibly attractive energy

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• DI

  @dimplez8330 · 6 months ago

  I dealt with this for 5 yrs and as a fearful avoidant I couldn’t take it anymore, so I left him. He literally told me I couldn’t handle him and he was right. Worse relationship of my life

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• FE

  @feliciasjourney · 6 months ago

  With my husband for 11 years, and 3 children. I’m exhausted…

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