7 Ways Avoidant Men Like To Test You | Adam Lane Smith The Attachment Specialist
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@christine4172 · 1 year ago
This sounds emotionally exhausting. The healthier option may be to move on and detach with kindness.
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@aishwaryanair2460 · 5 months ago
Loving an avoidant often feels like begging for love and waiting endlessly for even the smallest sign of affection. You keep hoping they will change or make time for you, but it becomes exhausting when the effort and emotions are not reciprocated. It feels like giving an ocean of love and still being met with “get a life,” without any thought about how deeply it affects you. The most painful part is not just the distance, but the lack of empathy or awareness of the emotional impact left behind. In the end, it’s better to move on rather than keep yourself hanging, because even if you stay or leave, they may not come looking for you—and peace comes when you stop waiting for someone who is not choosing you.
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@sharonesther6159 · 10 months ago
The empath in us wants to accept the challenge but let’s all do ourselves a favor and just not.
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@dawnkocic8697 · 4 months ago
Who in the world would want to be in a relationship like this?? Life is too short!
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@monica5024 · 10 months ago
You'll end up absorbing his inner chaos through the constant uncertainty and back and forth. Protect your mental health
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@howicit4551 · 8 months ago
What we want is consistency and the avoident can't seem to provide that.
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@viermedepamant · 1 year ago
The avoidant should go to theraphy instead of putting their partner through hell with tests.
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@armilouis · 1 year ago
I walked away and chose my peace and self-respect instead.
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@Mamabear4b7 · 6 months ago
RUN FAR AWAY FROM AN AVOIDANT PERSON IN DATING! It’s a full time gig and your nervous system will be severely affected. You’ll die before your time. It will also affect your productivity in other areas of your life.
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@jlfrench3667 · 1 year ago
Avoidants need to avoid relationships. They are not special and do not deserve to overwhelm a healthy person with their immature adolescent behaviors. Love is hard enough we don’t need these kinds of unnecessary roller coaster rides and I resent them coming into peoples lives and pretending to be serious when all they are doing is challenging every aspect of the relationship until they feel satisfied completely ignoring the destruction they’re bringing into the healthy persons life. This is horrible. Stay away from these kinds of people. We are not responsible for them developing the security they failed to gain growing up. They take no accountability, but expect the other person to walk a fine line. Not happening.
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@sheryldrew1617 · 1 year ago
Cater to him. Tip toe around him. Put yourself last. Be his “peace” while he creates chaos and turmoil for you.
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