7 Attachment Wounds Your Father Caused Keeping You In TOXIC Relationships

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  @AttachmentAdam · 11 months ago · pinned

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  @virtualemdr · 11 months ago

  Many people don’t realize how deeply a father’s absence or criticism impacts self-worth and relationships. This awareness is the first step toward real change.

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  @angieflowe3925 · 11 months ago

  I&apos;m an avoidant female. I think I&apos;m this way because of emotional unavailable parents. Never heard I love you I&apos;m proud of you etc

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  @gabriella8797 · 11 months ago

  Non stop criticism and mental &nbsp;abuse from my father . He destroyed the family.

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  @jaclync4183 · 11 months ago

  🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 PLEASE make this same video for MEN!! Men who don&apos;t know how to be good, stable boyfriends, husbands and fathers, because they were wounded by their own male role models. And how they can start healing and finding appropriate male role models, so they can break the cycle and do better in their adult lives! Thank you! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

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  @carkmor1 · 11 months ago

  Adam I cried at most of these wounds, when I found your channel I first thought I had anxious attachment, but now I know it&apos;s quiet disorganized. And listening to you today, I know why. I actually have an incredible Dad in so many ways, but he didn&apos;t know better. He lost his own Dad at 8 yrs old and had to graft and hustle his entire life. He&apos;s had so much loss and been so resilient. It&apos;s not his fault that his generation knew nothing of emotional health. But you&apos;re absolutely right that our parents story no longer has to shape ours. I may listen to this a few more times. And will send to my daughters. Thank you sir.

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  @grass.scented · 11 months ago (edited)

  Wound 1: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fRKYRPaRBdE&amp;t=160">2:40</a> Never Good Enough <br>Wound 2: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fRKYRPaRBdE&amp;t=666">11:06</a> Performance Equals Safety<br>Wound 3: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fRKYRPaRBdE&amp;t=1165">19:25</a> L♡ve = Starvation<br>Wound 4: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fRKYRPaRBdE&amp;t=1575">26:15</a> Lost Identity Wound<br>Wound 5: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fRKYRPaRBdE&amp;t=1890">31:30</a> Body as Value<br>Wound 6: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fRKYRPaRBdE&amp;t=2320">38:40</a> No Voice <br>Wound 7: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fRKYRPaRBdE&amp;t=2682">44:42</a> L♡ve = Servitude

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  @sadiqua7 · 11 months ago (edited)

  Does this include not having a father because of being adopted by a same sex couple? (Women) I met him in my late 20’s, learned he wanted to keep me. My bio mom gave me up out of spite because he wouldn’t leave my brother’s mom for her. After meeting him, he passed away shortly after, like 6 months later. But he was put me in as one of his beneficiaries on his life insurance along with my 3 other sisters and brother. That made me feel so seen and sad that I only got to spend one evening with him.

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  @AnniceChetelat · 11 months ago

  Yes my father ruled over me by rule #1! &nbsp;I was 56 when my dad sent me a letter of 6 double sided paper telling me how bad I was, my mistakes, my not being who he wanted me to be, how stupid I had been in school….<br>I cried…. When he passed… I didn’t. &nbsp;I married a narcissist man 15 years older and it took 19 years before I walked away

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  @annatataruch · 6 months ago

  I haven&apos;t cried this much in a long time... Haven&apos;t even realised how deep those wounds are. Thank you for a great analysis.

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  @TedMyrrh · 8 months ago

  Im 56 divorced single and still father wound controls my life

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  @matrixxxx6263 · 11 months ago (edited)

  My father is a narcissist, he was extremely cruel in my childhood. I spent a long time healing. Now I only accept men that gratefully kiss the floor I am walking on.....<br>or would rather live alone like a nun for the rest of my life....

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