The Secret Attachment Style That's SABOTAGING Your Productivity

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  @mohamedengland8187 · 2 days ago

  Adam you true this man is me

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• TE

  @TessaBrewer · 5 months ago

  Honestly you become self sufficient bc no one really cared in the first place. It’s out of necessity

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• TE

  @TedMyrrh · 7 months ago

  This is me, but 25 years divorced.  I have autism and ADHD also. Im so ready to give up physically emotionally energetically.  Doing the hard work of facing my trauma is painful and exausting.  Normal people cant relate to my struggle and constantly give me pat answers not realizing they have no idea the devestation of deprivation from mal attuned narcissisting mother and autistic clueless avoidant father.  Multiple burnouts have led to a state of complete stuckness.  Years of survival mode, workaholism. After crash and burn more than once i can barely find enjoyment in simple intetests. After unmasking for more than a decade i feel better about being more authentic but less able to figure out how to get exposure to help and opportunities.

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  @DrCarl_inhouse · 1 year ago

  I think I just had a lobotomy and I don’t know if I should feel free, terrified or seen. 😂 TY Adam, you are amazing. I’m on year 2 of listening to you and have had an absolute positive awaking.

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• KA

  @karolinae.8949 · 4 months ago

  Adam maybe you meet all those successful QD people bc only those have means to afford your help. I don’t think it’s good to omit those people who don’t have that type of skills and achievements, yet their life made their nervous system be similar, and they struggle internally AND financially. I think it’s at least half of us.

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• BA

  @baldmountain1128 · 3 months ago

  I woke up after two years. Breakups every three months like clock work. I found my own growth as a result of this, and I hope the same for her someday.

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  @bobcascaddan8850 · 3 months ago

  Adam, this might be your best video, yet on Quiet Disorganized Attachment Style.  Thank you for doing this for these people.  They are some of the best people on the planet.

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  @DarKNess1111x · 1 year ago (edited)

  You are truly an expert in this field. You nail (nearly) every aspect of how and why someone gets to be this way, and being so well understood and more seen than anyone ever has despite occupying different spaces and times, is an indescribable feeling.  Connection is simultaneously my greatest fear and deepest desire, and I'm well aware of the profound implications of continuing to harbor this weakness. I overcame it once before, i know I can again. The biggest hurdle is the risk involved in sharing myself with others, investing and taking an interest in them which I KNOW will never equally be reciprocated. I no longer confuse being an ornamental associate with illusion of actual friendship, let alone partnership or even kinship for that matter. It's all a trap. Only ever has been so how is setting myself up to once again fall prey to their feined and half-assed illusions better than safely and peacefully dying alone?

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• AN

  @AnUnhappyBusiness · 1 year ago

  Your survey from last week labeled me as highly disorganized, and watching your videos I definitely fall into the quiet version of that. On your survey it asked my sex, which I said male. But the funny thing to me is, your quiet disorganized videos seem mostly female oriented. That's fine. It's still helpful info. But also, when your survey asked for what I was interested in for follow up services and sessions, it specifically mentioned something about connecting with my spouse, it specifically described my spouse as male. Lol. All good. But a kind of funny oversight.

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• AN

  @anonymousnation5235 · 11 months ago

  Making huge progress kicking put chaotic people out of my life and opening up to healthier ones. The unfamiliar peace feels odd sometimes.

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  @darkartsbyadrienne · 1 year ago

  🤯 I don't match with everything, but I know that I'm constantly exhausted with even small interactions. I can't discuss my feelings because I feel like I'm suffocating or on the verge of a panic attack. And I've become increasingly more isolated every year.

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• PM

  @pmin9955 · 11 months ago

  i can confirm that people with personality disorders seek me out as a disorganized. And particularly cluster B..First boyfriend, borderline personality disorder. second, narcissistic personality disorder.

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