The Real Reason You Stay in Abusive Relationships

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• ZU

  @Zub3Z · 4 months ago (edited)

  My ex of 8 months has severe BPD with abandonment wounds (not to mention some narc traits too). Her push-pull, manipulation, gaslighting, projection of her abandonment wounds onto me (you&apos;re sabotaging us), starting pointless fights, nonstop, along with her triangulation destroyed me. I was trying to walk away so many times (my sisters and friends kept telling me to run), but she managed to reel me back in every time, which was against my better judgement. <br><br>When she finally took note of me not really caring anymore and walking away, she lashed-out, further triangulated, discarded me, immediately monkey-branched to someone else, blocked and called me cruel. It was the worst pain I have ever fucking, felt. <br><br>What&apos;s crazy is that I wanted to get away from her so bad, but yet her discard flipped the script on me and made me feel like I was losing &quot;the one&quot;. Insane how that shit works.<br><br>I am however just over 9 months out (her discard was on 7/20/25), and I&apos;m finally healing as I recognized that my supposed, &quot;relationship&quot; wasnt even fucking real. Never, again.

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• CA

  @captainslow6074 · 4 months ago (edited)

  How do you have only 1.1k views? &nbsp;Your videos are the most accurate, respectful and professionally informed on YouTube for gentlemen who have suffered abuse at the hands of certain abusive women, hands down.

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• SI

  @siriusfun · 4 months ago

  30K clinical hours vs an internet connection, a dozen google searches and strong desire to become an &apos;influencer&apos; on YouTube. Love it.<br>Keep calling out the grift, Dr. T.

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• CO

  @cowboynohorse · 4 months ago (edited)

  When you are invested and they are not, I was waiting for a return that never came. Thank you for the video.

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• LA

  @Landofsmiles999 · 1 month ago

  You&apos;re sarcasm is priceless, always bringsxa smile

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• ST

  @StevenSampsonMedia · 2 months ago

  This is very real. Logically you know better but the dopamine cycle is hard to break.

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• JU

  @justiceness9-e5o · 2 months ago

  She definitely was the arsonist and I was the firefighter. Well put!! Life with a borderline. A chaos magnet.

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• BI

  @bigqizzadog · 2 months ago

  You don’t understand, I’m a covert empath TM. 😂

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• MA

  @markusschaffer9712 · 4 months ago

  I refuse to travel down Cluster B road,to get to crazy town. You can’t make them happy and you can’t fix them.

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• SH

  @shanecoventry5139 · 4 months ago

  Devalued by the ex-wife after learning to say NO and after she left I refused to be manipulated and stood up to the family. That did not go well with a smear campaign from hell making me look at myself to evaluate if I was the problem as they made it clear it could only be me as the wife left then I had distance myself. Taken a while but now worth it as I am living, I have peace and get to travel meeting normal people. Once you see your life changes looking back on the good times has required a little retraining of my thoughts.

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• ST

  @stephenh1387 · 4 months ago

  Here’s one, when i finally pushed back and was leaving she turned it around on me that I should honor her because she revealed to me that she shared her childhood trauma with me, that because she was intimate with me I should feel bad.

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• RU

  @rumeshtharanga · 2 months ago (edited)

  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dxl_MiFvrTo&amp;t=407">6:47</a> &nbsp;Thank you for this. It really helps me to understand the agony I went through and why I stayed for 3 years.

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