Narcissist’s Karma: Fantasy and 2 Strategies (Antisocial-defiant vs. Conforming Pseudo-normal)

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• JA

  @jamesgreenldn · 2 years ago

  “A child that is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.”

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• ER

  @eray99999 · 1 year ago

  This is so true. The swings, the collapse, the mother replacements. Comprehending their forever-child mentality is the key to moving on.

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• BR

  @browniebun · 2 years ago

  I grew up with narcissist parents and became narcissistic myself. Then I became a mother. I hadn&apos;t planned it and it frustrated me that I had lost my freedom. For years I was unable to love my child. My narcissistic fleas latched unto him and that woke me up to our shared reality. I started to see that the innocence that I had lost and the insecurities I had gained were the product of my environment and upbringing. <br><br>One of my top priorities now is to care and love for myself and my child. I want him to be his own person. He needs my guidance and not my correction. It&apos;s been quite hard living together all these years as single mom and child. &nbsp;Experiencing a burnout was the pivotal moment leading to my recovery and healing.<br><br>Love and support to all of you who are on this (similar) journey. You are deserving of care, attention, time, validation, consideration and so much more. ❤

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• AL

  @altugar · 1 year ago

  Narsisizm, kendisinin değersizliğinin farkında olma halinin telafisidir.

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• GE

  @georgiagrindon1961 · 2 years ago

  How is it so possible for them so swap between the 2 so quickly? One extreme to the other. Example being my ex, DV against me, police called, 2 female officers badly assaulted and then as soon as more officers turned up, he had swapped and was acting like the most normal, level headed, respectful person ever, went outside and tried to talk to the male officers like nothing had happened and he had done nothing wrong, as soon as he realised they was looking at him like he was mental and a complete nut job and he was getting cuffed regardless, switched straight back to being violent and launched at them too. If I hadn’t witnessed it with my own eyes I would never of believed it. The most insane switch I’ve ever seen. I’d lived with him for 4 years and seen him swap and flip flop between the 2 strategies on multiple occasions but there was atleast some sort of pattern I could notice, that night though was something else. It was swapping within minutes, flip flopping between to 2 depending on who he was infront of, women he was just outrageously vile to, the men he tried to come across as the most normal and respectable man in town. Totally bizarre!!

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• SF

  @sfiore6427 · 2 years ago

  If you ever wondered who makes it to the end of your videos its me. All of them. I listen religiously. LOL fascinating topic for me. 🙂

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• CY

  @cynthiahassan9839 · 2 years ago

  Sometimes very childlike when addressing a situation he will refer to something unconnected

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• KR

  @KrakenBolter · 1 year ago

  Compensatory strategies which oscillate between being conformist and rebellious.

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• TH

  @thesubwave · 2 years ago (edited)

  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bZIOwGLE0g4&amp;t=816">13:36</a> why narcissists are children, sometimes infantile <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bZIOwGLE0g4&amp;t=1155">19:15</a>

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• CY

  @cynthiahassan9839 · 2 years ago

  Yes. But there is no love

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• SU

  @suzystone244 · 2 years ago (edited)

  Devaluation was already in place. His father died February 2023. We did hospice in our home. My narcissist husband wanted gratification. &nbsp;Total attention....we just had his father die in our home!<br>Discard was slow and cruel, which ended in assault to me. He wanted me wiped out.<br>Now he&apos;s facing felony charges. Ive been away since the August assault. &nbsp;Im in a safe place..healing. learning so much information on the narcissist person in one&apos;s life. Its absolutely ludicrous. &nbsp;Off the rail. &nbsp;The On/ Off switch is unbelievable. &nbsp;<br>Still wondering how I made it.<br>No sense dwelling. <br>Just more informed.

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• RU

  @runwiththewind3281 · 2 years ago

  Professor Vaknin, thank you.

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