Why You're Addicted To Someone Who Hurts You

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  @caffinatedirl8466 · 6 months ago

  These relationships are so dangerous cause you end up mentally and physically drained to the point of being sick from lack of sleep, lack of self care and eventually a lowering of you immune system. Save yourself before you get ill girls ❤

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• KA

  @kait-kat7743 · 6 months ago

  My last relationship was exactly like this!!! I would cry and panic out of pure exhaustion and overwhelm. BUT NOW, I’m married to my stable husband who gives me peace (and a little baby). It gets better ladies, just get away from “that” guy!

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• AM

  @ameliazzamanmona9327 · 6 months ago

  I wanna be saved from this. I am dying inside.

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• NA

  @Natascha-c2s · 6 months ago

  He love bombed me in the beginning. He is very very moody, negative, mean, manipulative and punishs with silence...

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• ME

  @mexicanfoodjunkie8857 · 6 months ago (edited)

  two of the most powerful ways to fix this:<br>1. when you&apos;re tempted to check for messages from them, start thinking about something else instead. something very interesting, something you&apos;re obsessed with, something that will make you forget you&apos;re waiting from a message from them. once you stop anticipating their &quot;attention&quot; on you, the dopamine cycle will break, and you&apos;ll stop thinking about them and be more involved in your life. (a hack to doing this is to keep a rubber band around your wrist. once you start thinking or stressing about them, snap the rubber band and FORCE yourself to think about something else. over time, all it will take it a snap of the band and your mind will automatically stop thinking about them. then, it turns in to your thoughts focused on something else)<br><br><br>2. any time you&apos;re missing the love and attention you&apos;d usually get from them, imagine someone else instead. make it an avatar of whatever you want. (mine is a very sexy man) and you pour those emotions into that person in your imagination. for example, every time i feel the pulse of love, i give it to that person in my mind. if i&apos;m frustrated, i talk to that person instead. if i just need a cuddle, i imagine that person is holding me. what essentially happens is that you begin to receive the love, bonding, and connection you need from yourself instead of someone else.<br><br>I&apos;ve found both of these things to super powerful in helping me to love myself and self regulate. I promise you, PROMISE, you CAN do it. it takes time, unconditional forgiveness of self and being as consistent as possible and it will happen.

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• CH

  @CharuKakkar-gd2kb · 6 months ago

  THE TIMINGGGGG

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• SI

  @simim9653 · 6 months ago

  just today ive had enough and cried out loud asking why im so attached, need to detach fr this isnt even funny anymore

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• SH

  @shshhshhh · 6 months ago

  Ladies, get out of that emotional abuse. You have to make that decision for your health and all aspects of life. This can be so dangerous but you have to be strong.

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• TH

  @Thebreathyouneed · 6 months ago

  “Grieving the fantasy of what could have been” but was not struck a chord. Thank you

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• CH

  @ChristinePosselt · 6 months ago

  The worst thing is that some men do this on purpose. To keep you hooked and adicted 🙄

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• CU

  @cutiepie1234-h1q · 6 months ago

  Its called intermittent reinforcement

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• MA

  @martinabharadwaj697 · 6 months ago (edited)

  My previous relationship was exactly like this. &nbsp;Very toxic, hot and cold. I became such an anxious person. I finally understood his patterns and that I was just holding on because of his potential. I left him 8 months back. I do miss him. But I feel so much at peace now. I feel like I&apos;m glowing inside out. I learnt a lot from your videos and realised my self worth. You&apos;re my fav relationship coach. The way you explain things is just amazing. Thank you ❤

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