How a secure person handles an avoidant pulling away

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  @littlelaughs78 · 1 month ago

  Everyone suddenly seems to be talking about Sara Rivers arche type quiz, so obviously I had to see what the hype was about lol. I tried it myself and honestly, the result was way more accurate than I expected. Pretty interesting so far!

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  @SDR3088 · 1 month ago

  Ok i think im dealing with one right now but we are working things out tho so it keeps me going i just hate that txting is not his thing and he has admitted that so i only see him at work and he loves to just walk away when you get caught up with talking to another person so i end up having to chase him down to catch up to him. One night i stopped chasing him and let him go and kept talking to a friend for like 30 mins after that i walk to the time clock and he was standing there waiting for me i was shocked he looked annoyed but tryd to play it off. He then told me that he like to be in charge/ Dominant (not the actual words he used but it basically what he was tryna say he use another word i just cant remember it) i thought to myself yeah ive notice. Like i said we are improving tho outside of that ness we are really good friends and the conversation are amazing i hardly get to talk to anyone who actually has anything to say. So ill deal with a avoident if he csn give me deep conversation like this obe does.

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  @esmeraldadesaracho · 1 month ago

  I was that person with no boundaries but I was❤.<br>Thank you

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  @bonwan22 · 1 month ago (edited)

  After it is evident that it is avodance, I say to myself: this person doesn&apos;t want to commit &nbsp;Then I break up with them. You can bring s horse to water. You cannot make them drink. Then i put dont follow on reels about avoidants. &nbsp;Why? They are not an important part of my life.

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  @oops9678 · 1 month ago (edited)

  Literally. I stated exactly what I wanted in a relationship. I told him after a weekend together that I wanted clarity on his feelings since I knew mine had moved forward a bit, so I&apos;d asked for a phone call. Got silence in return, so I cut him loose in a followup text four days later.

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  @acmbs777 · 1 month ago

  All of these labels … soo many for everything… what if there is no such thing as an avoidant but rather just someone who isn’t destined for you and that’s why you feel they avoid everything.. God has a plan for everyone, let go and allow it to flow naturally

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  @isaactriplett7913 · 1 month ago

  Fax

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  @qwertiepie · 1 month ago (edited)

  So if your avoidant is pulling away its because theyve encountered something that triggers them .. a secure person will be secure enough to ask &quot;what was triggered&quot;.. avoidants dont like to have to walk around on eggshells

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  @SurfaceWorx-w2l · 1 month ago

  Way overthinking this bro. Let people leave the way they choose. Act in respect and truth accordingly yourself. Trust God for the rest <br>Done. Be at peace

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  @TheMajesticManatee-j1e · 1 month ago

  A DA can turn someone anxious realllll quick. Communicating boundaries? Yeah, that ain&apos;t happening with an avoidant. Turns ugly real fast.

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  @Kessibeth · 1 month ago

  This goes for any relationship, not just romantic.

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  @adblockprincess · 1 month ago

  Grow up, people.

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