LIMERENCE: To Heal from Heartache, Face Rejection (and Reality) Honestly

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  @USMCCGAGNG · 4 years ago

  I’m 58. I’ve worked my whole life to overcome childhood trauma.  Parents: be good for and to your kids like their lives depend on it, because they do.

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  @fireflythinking1290 · 4 years ago

  "limerence gets in when we don't have something meaningful in our lives" I wish I would have understood this about myself sooner

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  @beybiletta6634 · 4 years ago

  &quot;Your soul is screaming, I&apos;m not supported emotionally. &nbsp;<br><br>You are invalidating yourself. <br><br>The reason you are having pain is not because you are not spiritual enough. The reason you&apos;re having pain is because you are a real person, you are a real woman, who wants to be loved, who doesn&apos;t wanna be just like used in some casual sex way, who is supposed to off and pretend like it never happened. Who is designed for that??&quot;

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  @themazejackson · 4 years ago

  I have been rereading my childhood journals and what strikes me is this pairing of parental abandonment &amp; despair and my OBSESSION with love. I was so intent on finding a partner, from very early on, because I was convinced that it would give me what I was missing. Took me a while to figure out that <b>I&apos;m</b> the one who needs to give that to me.

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  @robertschrader · 4 years ago

  &quot;That wasn&apos;t magic—that was PTSD.&quot;

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  @doradestroy · 4 years ago

  Ugh. The New Age has been such a toxic influence on vulnerable people who come from trauma. It’s criminal really.

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  @tammyh931 · 3 years ago

  Limerance is HARD. It&apos;s the closest thing I&apos;ve ever experienced to drug addiction. &nbsp;It took me 5 years and a lot of therapy, but I&apos;m finally out of the fog. &nbsp;I remember that &quot;soul death&quot; feeling when I had to break off my obsession before I was ready to. &nbsp;The withdrawal from those dopamine hits is terrible. &nbsp;But when I was actually ready to let go, when I had realized what this actually was (limerance from being lonely and traumatized) and what it was NOT (not a karma/destiny bond), it is easier to stop. &nbsp;The wolf that is strongest is the one that you feed, and I had fed my limerance every day for years. &nbsp;I finally starved it out and feel so much more free. &nbsp;Thank you Anna ♥

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  @reikicowgirl9817 · 4 years ago (edited)

  This was painful to listen to because I saw myself so clearly here. I finally learned that just because a certain song came on, or I saw someone who looked just like him, or we magically ran into each other even though we were living 3,000 miles apart….it didn’t mean we were “destined” to be. It meant I needed to move on and gain resilience every time some reminder of him rocked me emotionally. One thing that helped was to stop watching ridiculous Hollywood romances.

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  @OnceUponATomorrow6948 · 4 years ago

  &quot;What you&apos;re recognizing is someone who is not into you.&quot; Oof that hit me harder than my mom&apos;s spanking spoon and I needed to hear it.

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  @lc5666 · 4 years ago

  I love how compassionate and honest you are about this stuff. It&apos;s a really hard lesson and it&apos;s so seldom addressed with kindness. The kindness and the reality are both needed. Nobody does this because they&apos;re stupid -- they do this because they were smart, when they were children and having to love people who treated them badly. We have to shift to reality when we are adults. It&apos;s so hard. Thank you for not just making jokes or denigrating people. It&apos;s a really tender, awful space.

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  @tiffanywilliams2863 · 4 years ago

  Girl.... this has to be the best video you have ever made!!! Her letter and you breaking things down stabbed me. When you talked about that soul feeling connection at first sight, you exposed that internal lie I&apos;ve been telling myself. I thought it meant love at first sight. It&apos;s not love. It&apos;s your energy recognizing that this guy is going to break your soul.. I have repeated this cycle four times with different men.. and that last one almost had me check myself into a mental hospital. I thank you for your channel! You have truly broken the spell

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  @hope-miracles · 2 years ago

  “Limerence = a false God” 🤦🏾‍♀️😮<br><br>Phew! What a reality check. Thank you the clarity. 💯

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