INFIDELITY SERIES: Once Trust is Broken, Can it Be Healed? - Esther Perel

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• MW

  @mwernli2886 · 3 years ago (edited)

  „Once you live with the answer, it means that you have to live with the consequences of knowing.“ - Wow… What a sentence. Words of wisdom.

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• HR

  @HRm708 · 6 years ago

  “The actual gutting that can be experienced.”<br><br> &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Yeah ..... the pain is so real, and is quite physical.

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• AY

  @aychmorgan21 · 6 years ago

  One can argue that an emotional affair isn&apos;t as bad as a physical one, but it still stings all the same. The trust is gone, and may never come back if it&apos;s not addressed.

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• CH

  @chrisreuben5592 · 8 years ago

  What makes cheating worse is lying, I went thru hell with my ex I knew what she was doing but it took me 2 weeks of solid ranting an raving before she finally decided to fess up. It was the worst time of my life, but for her to dig her heals in an lie just made me rage

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• TD

  @Tdcvjj · 9 years ago

  For me.....trust has completely disappeared never to return.

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  @123Monicuta · 10 years ago

  If he/she cheated once, there&apos;s always the fear its gonna be done again...The trust is broken...

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• KE

  @kevintravelPH · 7 years ago

  Listening to her reminded me of my pain. Got teary eyed there for a bit.

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• TH

  @thomaswoods1365 · 6 years ago

  I gave everything to my marriage and all of our kids in a combined family and after all that was cheated on. So to the question can it be healed? Much of what she says is correct, but I would add this. You have to keep the bar high if you have any chance at happiness. I spent 15 years working to make her happy on a daily basis. When the infidelity was revealed it was at that point about my happiness, not hers. I got married to find greater levels of happiness, not to be miserable. I sure as hell was not going to stay in a marriage where I was miserable. So I held the bar high to ensure my happiness. She failed at every turn, choosing to manipulate and deceive rather than being accountable and remorseful. So I kicked her out and was done. I think the people that get into chronic caustic marriage relationships don&apos;t draw the lines sharp enough. Keep the bar high for your own sanity. If they choose to repair at least you&apos;ll know it&apos;s legitimate.

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• LA

  @latinaalma1947 · 6 years ago

  She really is the BEST at expressing herself on this and many relationship topics...in my professional opinion as someone who academically educated and trained therapists and psychologists , she is the gold standard for public information about these subjects. She talks about the right issues and does so beautifully. signed a PhD academic psychologist

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• EL

  @elianahernandez87 · 8 years ago

  Once maybe but twice forget it there will be a 2nd an 3rd time and all that does it starts to break u. Not worth it i choose peace of mind over paranoia and stress

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• FO

  @foryou1324 · 8 years ago

  Amazing how every reaction she described as necessary after an affair (by the deceiver) is something I thought is necessary immediately after my ex told me about her affair.<br>I recently thought that I simply expected a bit too much from a person, but I understand now - I would do it if I ever had one (not that I think of it as a possibility) .<br>She is an ex because she lied and deceived for a long time after the affair, and simply did not try enough (if any at all).

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• CH

  @chochoejege5499 · 8 years ago

  It’s just so painful knowing how much you have invested in a relationship and all of a sudden you get heartbroken by that same relationship...I just can’t seem to forget it every time I wake up or I see him it’s just feels like he’s still talking to her am still fighting to trust him 🤦‍♀️

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