Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome? | Debi Silber | TEDxCherryCreekWomen

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  @andreaaufmuth351 · 2 years ago

  It’s a double crush. The betrayal itself and then absolutely zero support because they are the person you normally run to for comfort and now you have no one. It’s horrid.

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  @taniagill4673 · 4 years ago

  The worst part about betrayal, I think, is the shock. It kind of puts you in this place where you think anyone is capable of anything, and from there it's very easy to never let anyone back in.

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  @billjordan5507 · 5 years ago

  the most tragic thing about betrayal is that it never comes from an enemy...

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  @johnfrehley3887 · 3 years ago

  The worst part is that it's the one you'd never have imagined in your wildest dreams, would destroy you or have a wish to. It's never an enemy, it's the one you trusted completely, the one you loved with all your heart and let into every aspect of your life. It's beyond devastating.

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  @tedfinger · 5 years ago (edited)

  Her description of betrayal trauma is exactly on target. It changes you. I feel like an empty shell of my former self and I don’t see a path towards transformation. I’ve lost all motivation and enthusiasm for life itself. This is the trauma that’s invisible to the rest of society. No one really understands the pain of a betrayal, except for those of us who live with it.

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  @komalkoul6486 · 5 years ago

  "its hurts so much bcz on some level we know its intentional"

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  @lloydland · 6 years ago

  “Even though it was done to you, it wasn’t about you,” very well said.

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  @pattiobrien5408 · 3 years ago

  I grieve for the man I thought he was, for the future I thought we had, the one person who knew all of me. But what she left out, I grieve for the ability to trust myself to protect myself. That’s the one part I can’t get past. It also affected all of my friendships. I sabotaged them to keep myself safe. The loneliness is overwhelming but I don’t know how to heal this part.

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  @zero-ol2nt · 5 years ago

  What betrayal taught me was to never be attached to the amazing happiness that a partner can bring. You could give everything to a person, walk over broken glass and one day they can decide for whatever reason they are not happy. Instead look for your happiness in other things.

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  @colleenbishop2217 · 5 years ago

  Once my house is rebuild there's no letting the destroyer back in. That's my lesson learned.

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  @haydeejohnson8290 · 5 years ago

  Betrayal is betrayal, once it's done to you, it's hard to trust, even after reconciliation🙏🏻.

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  @derrickrr5516 · 2 years ago

  The vast majority of betrayers score high in narcissism, sociopathy or psychopathy. So don’t expect the betrayer to show remorse.

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