Esther Perel: Cheating, Codependency, & Connection

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  @shafferc100 · 5 months ago

  Esther is a prophet. She summarized 18 months of couples therapy into 1 hour. 🙌

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• ER

  @ERP2496 · 5 months ago

  The way I GASPED! Esther Perel is a treasure!

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• SO

  @sophiaenna · 5 months ago

  Alex bringing Ester on is the best thing she could’ve done for her podcast on relationships! All of her interviews always have the same perspective on men and relationships which is very driven by the American ideology which revolves around the self. But it’s interesting to see Esters perspective who I’m assuming is French. And her perspective is truly about the WE instead of ME which we need more of!! <br><br>Post pandemic it’s been a pattern that people are so easy to let go of relationships that don’t serve them but that inherently unhuman because as humans we know everything is not that black and white. <br><br>It’s refreshing to hear how we can mend broken relationships instead of labeling them as toxic &amp; letting go of them.

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• WI

  @williamtait7667 · 5 months ago

  I love the way Esther masterfully and respectfully cuts through the subjective, one-sided and oft self-involved interpretation of the dating / relationship experience to consider the duality, complementarity and meaning-making necessary for compromise and conflict resolution. She is a true genius, a complex thinker and an international treasure. Brava.

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• AT

  @ATLCoupleTherapy · 4 months ago

  As a psychologist, what I appreciate most about Esther Perel&apos;s take on cheating is how she refuses to reduce it to simple villain/victim narratives. Infidelity is rarely just about sex it&apos;s often a desperate, misguided attempt to feel alive, seen, or autonomous when those needs have gone mute in the primary relationship. And codependency? She reframes it not as &apos;loving too much,&apos; but as a loss of self where your emotional state depends entirely on managing someone else&apos;s. The hardest question she asks? &apos;What would you have to feel about yourself if you stopped tolerating what you&apos;re tolerating?&apos; That’s the kind of discomfort that actually heals.

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• RA

  @ratatataraxia · 5 months ago

  NO F*<b>***</b> WAY, Esther Perel, LETS GO!

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• JA

  @jadalo5542 · 5 months ago

  If you&apos;re not vulnerable. You&apos;re not interested enough. That hit like a ton of shiny, gold, truth bricks. I think I just realized how to stop pining for an emotionally unavailable guy friend! Thank you!!

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• JK

  @jkmattes · 5 months ago

  Being of a previous generation, I came to this episode of Call Me Daddy with the expectation that Alex would not do a good job with having Ester on her show. I was completely wrong. Alex is so articulate and asked good questions and listened. Amazing. It’s heartening to me that such a clear minded young person is in the podcast space.

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• ON

  @OnlyGainsTVStudios · 5 months ago

  Esther saying accountability matters more than communication compatibility is something I&apos;m sitting with because I spent years thinking if two people just communicated better everything would work out

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• NI

  @nicolehyc · 5 months ago

  &quot;Do you put as much emphasis on who you want to be than who you want to find?&quot; I wonder the same when I hear complaints from the same individuals all the time.

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• SA

  @SashaRicky · 5 months ago

  Please have Esther back again! It was a conversation between you both that was so relaxed but informative. I feel like you both compliment each other greatly!

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• CO

  @ComaRadio · 5 months ago (edited)

  Esther Perel on the need to invite friction into our daily lives: <br>Our predictive technologies are trying to remove all the inconveniences. They are trying to present you with a polished life, where there is no friction. No obstacles. Nothing that you have to work through, which &nbsp;however traditionally has been seen as that which gives you a sense of resilience, experience, that which is necessary for child development. They need friction, they need to resolve problems, they need to figure it out, they need to make mistakes and correct it, so do we.

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