The secret to desire in a long-term relationship | Esther Perel | TED

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• TI

  @tinyhuong2152 · 9 years ago

  When you are single AF and you still keep watching about relationship things.

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• MC

  @McFraneth · 7 years ago

  I love watching my partner from a distance. I fall back and just watch him. I love the curve of his jaw and the nape of his neck. I love seeing him laughing with others. I feel proud of him.

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• HE

  @helvidia2181 · 5 years ago

  "the ability to stay connected to one's self in the presence of another" that is the key!

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• MI

  @misery8264 · 6 years ago

  Went to the cinema with my boyfriend the other week. The lady at the cashier had her first day and messed a few things up. She panicked and apologized over and over again. He told her to calm down, that it's totally fine and that she's doing an awesome job. Then he made jokes about his first day at work. I love him even more in moments like these.

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• GK

  @Gk2003m · 5 years ago

  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sa0RUmGTCYY&amp;t=220">3:40</a>: nail on the head. We ask one person to provide everything we used to ask of an entire village…. And then we wonder why marriages crumble. It is quite simply unfair to put all that on one other human being. It is mentally and spiritually exhausting; it turns us all into vampires.

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• MA

  @marcryan658 · 8 years ago

  *doesn&apos;t have girlfriend<br>*has test tomorrow<br>*in youtube at <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sa0RUmGTCYY&amp;t=120">2:00</a>am<br>*continues watching

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• AR

  @arhabersham · 13 years ago

  I bet her husband felt SO MUCH drawn to her when she was delivering this talk :D

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• JA

  @japikolee · 12 years ago

  What I got from it is: you (both) have to be happy with who you are in order to be happy in a relationship. If you have a passion, if you are fulfilled in other field than love, you will give yourselves, and at the same time - each other - space to pursue that. Hence all the things she mentioned: no turnoffs caused by not feeling worthy of pleasure, no turnoffs caused by overly protectiveness, great turn-on when seeing each other being yourselves. Sure, I simplified it, but if you get individual happiness, your chances to be happy in a relationship and in bed are so much greater.

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• RS

  @rsm014 · 2 years ago

  “and I stay open to the mysteries that are living right next to me.” Beautiful ty

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• R.

  @r.e.tucker3223 · 3 years ago

  Married 42 years. In every video of hers I have watched, she&apos;s been brilliant.

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• TH

  @thegoodfellow41 · 9 years ago

  Her vocabulary has to be maxed prestige.

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• WI

  @WilfridaMacharia · 11 years ago

  Mystery it doesn&apos;t mean always going to different places its looking at the same thing through different eyes...best fact from this Esther Perel.

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