Why Are Some People Too Stuck to Grow? | Analysis from a Former Psychotherapist

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• JA

  @jaysmithcool · 5 years ago

  I am one of the rare people who realized it's better to be depressed than dissociated. I am one of the rare people who feels no shame in grieving. I've devoted my life to healing my traumas.

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• AL

  @altycoggydeer · 5 years ago

  "To be depressed is much healthier than being dissociated". Wow Daniel! Thank you, these words just hit me.

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• MI

  @misssoso5859 · 5 years ago

  Your empathy towards your dad - despite how much he failed you as a parent - is really admirable.

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• MI

  @minnesotajude8447 · 5 years ago

  Daniel’s book “Breaking from your Parents,” helped me, a lot. Thank you Daniel.

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• MI

  @MirandaMiu007 · 5 years ago

  Without commentary like yours, us healing people could definitely feel like outcasts.

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• SO

  @southernsoul152 · 5 years ago

  Your innate ability to educate through vulnerability is truly life changing. Thank you for all the wisdom and experience you so selflessly share 🙏🏽

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• GI

  @gingerisevil02 · 5 years ago

  People often don't grow because everyone around them enables them, is complicit with them, or a bystander, especially when it comes to abusive men in the family.

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• EA

  @eastalawest1633 · 5 years ago

  I get angry at unconscious people sometimes, but ultimately I understand. I struggle so hard to not dissociate but sometimes the pain is just so big its overwhelming.

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• GO

  @GoodKarma1020 · 5 years ago

  Hiya, great video!! <br><br>I’m one of those people who spent over a decade healing childhood traumas. <br>Gosh is was the most painful depressing experience in my life. But like you said I rather “feel” then be disassociated. <br><br>I will always be a work in progress and know “growing” and “becoming” my higher self equals freedom.<br><br>Ironically the more healthy I’ve become the more people I had to leave behind, including my parents and as of recently a friendship of 16 years. <br><br>I couldn’t keep growing and continue to have relations with them because we were not on equal playing fields. They could not understand certain logics because they were beyond “stuck.” It was like banging my head; to quote you on “cement.” <br><br>My life is not perfect but being self aware is one of the greatest gifts one can give ones self.

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• VA

  @vaiciciaku · 5 years ago

  I wish I would be able to speak one day about my experience growing up with my parents so openly and publicly as you do.

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• TA

  @tala5802 · 5 years ago

  hard pill to swallow but definitely true. I wish someone told me this earlier, I wouldn’t have wasted the best years of my life trying to help and ‘change’ my mom who was and still is in denial of everything. she’s already experiencing early signs of dementia in her mid 40s. It’s sad but at this point I have to let it go

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• SM

  @smoozerish · 5 months ago (edited)

  Depression and anxiety pushed me to seek the answers. In a strange kind of way I am thankful for that. Recognizing the abuse my mother afflicted upon me was the puzzle I had to solve to resolve the depression. My inner child desperately needed my adult self to stand up for him in order for us both move on in life.

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