He’s Not Immature, He’s Abusive: Why Narcissists Don’t “Grow Out of It” with Dr. Les Carter | S3EP8
80K views · Feb 24, 2026 · Education
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@lisasonni · 6 months ago · pinned
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@kennavarela9961 · 5 months ago
That is exactly right! They can temporarily change their behavior, but they don't change their thinking.
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@flightydancer · 7 months ago
So happy our beloved Dr. Carter is still here and sharing his wisdom.
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@CL-lo4wd · 4 months ago
Dr Carter's genuine kindness comes across and is a balm for souls broken by abuse.
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@erikavaleries · 7 months ago
Dr. Carter! We miss you! Great to see you
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@HeatherWood-y1n · 4 months ago
It’s so true. Every single person I’ve known with narcissistic personality disorder never changes. They never grow.
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@vickimerritt2832 · 7 months ago
Besides tempers, word salad, victim mentality, aggression, and payback, triangulating, lies etc.to me the worst trait is extreme selfishess. All the other traits seem to exist to insure their right to be selfish via their entitlement.
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@jennyjenny3531 · 7 months ago
So nice to see Dr. Carter still making appearances
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@mariesuzy750 · 7 months ago
My favorite doctor helped me get away from a abusive marriage. I watched all of his videos.
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@lt827 · 7 months ago
Congratultations, Lisa on having the esteemed Dr. Les Carter as your guest!
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@suegordon8581 · 5 months ago
At 32.35 " when he gets older he won't be immature" I was in my 40s when I gave that explination a try, I'm 71 now. I had an emotional melt down yesterday that was epic, around how bleeping immature he is!!!!! Stop doing all the work in the relationship, you will get nothing in return but frustration high blood pressue and many perscriptions for anti depressants. My eyes are finally open. My son was more mature at 16 than this man child will ever be. I find myself with no financial means to live independently. My boundaries and my resolve will have to suffice for now. God speed 🙏 to all others on the journey back to yourself.
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@jdwright3277 · 7 months ago
I miss Dr Carter. He helped me so<br>so much.
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