5 Reasons The BPD Favorite-Person Relationship Often Fails

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  @michaelking4578 · 3 years ago

  Being in a relationship with a bpd is amazing until it turns into a nightmare.

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  @nickradner5325 · 2 years ago

  I have to say. I am so disappointed in myself that I was in a year long relationship with a girl who has BPD.  I overreacted to her constant false accusations, I got rid of lifelong friends, some in a cruel and disrespectful way, isolated myself, and tried to anticipate her needs.  I thought I was being a great boyfriend to her, and I even bought a wedding ring for her that she refused to give back.  Every SINGLE one of these cycles happened to me. Hearing this actually scares me right now.  It is dying HEARTBREAKING to me that I didn’t catch these issues in her before. I just assumed I was a terrible man and she was just over sensitive in general.  I spent thousands of dollars on travel to see her.  She finally forced me to leave after an explosive fight.  I am truly, regretfully sad that there was nothing I could do for her.  I’m not any type of psychologist, but all of these videos are spot on, like a mirror of our story.  Be careful who you let into your life. I had no idea how badly she suffered. But also didn’t know there was nothing I could ever do to win.  Stay strong if it happened to you.  Sorry to everyone who has been through this, including the persons who have this disorder

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  @Horsel335 · 3 years ago

  Being the BPDs favourite person feels amazing until you realise that they insert themselves into every aspect of your life and they become jealous and obsessive

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  @joecaner · 3 years ago (edited)

  My first wife had BPD, and my second wife had NPD. After that, I couldn't imagine ever trusting myself to choose a third. I used to be afraid of being alone until I learned that there are worst things. I'd rather live alone the rest of my life than repeating either of those two experiences. They nearly destroyed me.

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  @disdroid · 3 years ago

  My borderline partner also happened to be my favourite person in the literal sense. Whatever she did, i would always feel that way - even if she had rung me 60 times that day my heart would leap when she rang. Eventually i found an antidote for every single problem behaviour, giving her the space to work on herself. After keeping her stable for almost a full week she had the revelation that therapy might benefit her, and from then on there was no stopping her! I got my life back, and had a relationship with my ideal partner. We were blessed.

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  @desertweasel6965 · 3 years ago

  I've also noticed that, because in the beginning they are exhausting themselves in every way just to be that ideal person for their favorite person, they start to become resentful towards that person. They are worn out and emotionally exhausted and they associate that feeling of anxiety with the favorite person. So, if they are doing something like going out of their way to text or call or going out of their way to give you sex all the time and they don't really want to be doing these things, they will start to hate their favorite person because they feel like they are being forced to do all these things when they actually did it willingly to manipulate them.

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  @lisbethbird8268 · 3 years ago

  It's hard to be put into the fp position. No lie. One isn't perceived as a human with needs and aims and problems of their own. The demands for attention, validation, and reassurance can be too much; and can utterly destroy any fond regard that once existed.

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  @ropekd1681 · 3 years ago

  Amazingly accurate description. The problem is no matter how much damage they cause you can never get them out of your head. Hence why ppl are still watching these videos.

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  @Tyler-hk4wo · 1 year ago

  Is it just me or are people with BPD traumatized children even into adulthood? It almost feels like a child acting out when a mother has another young child to care for. It's like their emotions and sense of self froze in development.

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  @SDmitriyGolovko · 1 year ago

  It's like they use all the examples during the valuation phase of how good they treated you during their devaluation phase, and how bad you've been treating them when you're just trying to navigate all the insane emotional baggage they toss onto you.

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  @Jim93905 · 2 years ago

  If I didn't text good morning.....You are so right on about my horrible experience.

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  @boatbound3300 · 1 year ago

  Not only was it a rollercoaster ride it was also a really bad train wreck. Im still trying to heal from the injuries. She moved on as like nothing was wrong

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