Dating as a Trans Woman: The Impossible Reality

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• LO

  @LouiseUnapologetic · 7 months ago · pinned

  I deleted this once, but it's back. The 'Impossible Reality' isn't just about dating—it’s about the sheer grit it takes to find someone who sees the woman, not the headline. Most people couldn't handle this mission for a single day, but we do it every day. Watch this, know your worth, and join the Clan. We aren't moving an inch.

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• JA

  @janetwilliams195 · 1 day ago

  I am trans. You are so right. Men treat us like a fetish. Some sneaky sex is ok but a dare ? No

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• BR

  @BrianWentzel-q1x · 1 month ago

  I also love your smile..... Don't cry.. and stay strong...  Your beautiful!!!

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• HL

  @hlrembe62 · 1 day ago

  Not all of us are scared, we have just gotten tired of sorting through the scammers and the transaction minded.

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  @p1aydumb280 · 11 days ago

  Self respect is key when dating as transgender, does mean you are more likely to be single.

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• LO

  @louisvanbeek1 · 2 weeks ago

  Hi Louise, what you’re saying really resonates with me; I feel and understand exactly what you mean on a deeper level. I admire your refusal to compromise, because you’re right: there is so much judgment in today’s society. And that triggers our deepest, primal fears—the fear of being excluded. I think men, in particular, tend to bottle things up, since they never learned how to deal with their feelings in the first place, let alone share them. On top of that, openly acknowledging your deep desires—whether conscious or unconscious (your "shadows")—takes immense courage and is truly nerve-wracking (stemming from that primal fear of exclusion). The way I see it, this applies to everyone—cis, trans, queer, bi, gay,straight, crossdresser, kinkster, you name it. I think there’s a clear pattern here: almost everyone struggles to openly admit to having feelings and desires that might invite disapproval or negative judgment. Chances are you’ve experienced this yourself. Viewed from that perspective, it’s understandable why someone might find it so difficult to introduce you to their family. After all, it is a fact that it is much more difficult to discuss sensitive topics with people in your inner circle than with someone who is more distant (such as a therapist). I also feel the pain of how hard it is to find someone who wants to connect with you—someone who truly sees and feels you, and refuses to compromise on that!. To be honest , at the moment ,i have feelings and disires that are not easy to talk about, and it was liberating to do so with a male co- worker i know for a long time. But for me, it is a wish to gain more courage and make fewer compromises when it comes to my emotional life. That is why I admire you, and your openness makes you a beautiful person. It would be wonderful if we could live in a world without judgment, with a free spirit.

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• TE

  @terencedye8542 · 6 days ago

  Great insight to how you feel, I would not have know you was trans. Hope you find happiness and love.

• ME

  @melanietaylor2699 · 7 days ago

  I totally agree with you Louise im 6 years post op now and finding it near impossible to find a partner they all seem to want pre op only and we all know why, Can see myself being a nun pretty soon :) Chasers were a total pain back in my pre op days used to get bombarded ive had a handful still message me but they go straight onto talking about sex and the usual whats my Vagina like, All the best Louise love your channel xx

• AL

  @alexjaybrady · 13 hours ago

  Real talk Louise

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• DA

  @DaveCessford-tf2ws · 11 days ago

  I found your remarks about being &quot;clocked&quot; interesting. I dated a trans woman for 4 years and I think she was clocked about 4 times when I was with her. I was always surprised when it happened &nbsp;as I thought she was beautiful and totally feminine looking. It was always women who clocked her, never men, or maybe if men did they didn&apos;t react. On one occasion a woman in a wine bar engaged us in conversation then &quot;accidentally&quot; knocked my girl&apos;s drink all over her dress. So sad, I think she was just jealous of my partner. <br><br>Re the comments about your tattoos. For what it&apos;s worth I think you are attractive but for every man who likes a woman with tattoos there is one who doesn&apos;t

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• LE

  @LesleyGarvs-vo7eq · 9 days ago

  Darling...I am a transwoman...but I am just human. You look absolutely real! But you are not a label. Believe me...i know your pain! Some countries are awful for trans ladies...Psycho education has helped me...and finding better people...<br>There are places in the planet...in which you feel so safe and so relax...you don t feel the urge to label...just feeling human ...like the nice normal lady you are! Germany gave me this safe feeling!...And germans do date and marry trans ladies😉😍🤗🤗

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• MY

  @mysterious2007damn · 7 days ago

  OMG you are 59 years old!!!!! No fucking way!!!! You look amazing!!!