Mourning Yourself After Narcissistic Abuse

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  @christinehall6441 · 3 years ago

  The worst thing is facing up to your own weakness in allowing the bullying, brainwashing and blackmail, which made you feel like a weak coward  with no self esteem. In old age these feelings can overwhelm you with resentment and regret for your family having lived through it due to your lack of courage to break free.

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• TE

  @teresathompson235 · 2 years ago

  Being with a narcissist is a slow, downward spiral to zero self esteem...this is why so many want to end this controlling life of pleasing a person who will never be happy. It's terribly destructive.  It will destroy you if you don't get away from this poison.

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• TI

  @Tiger-dg3cz · 2 years ago

  Accept the loss and be glad they are no longer in your life

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• MU

  @MutantDustBunny · 3 years ago

  When I saw that the narc was energized and happy by my grief, i decided to be happy and live my dreams. I now live in a very beautiful organic farm in Mexico, I am alone but I am happier than ever in my life. I am not interested in a romantic relationship, but I have many new friends and a new life. I did have to mourn my losses because he caused me to lose my business, my marriage and my community. These narcissists' are extremely dangerous!

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  @csw7861 · 3 years ago

  Post break up I've watched months worth of content on narcissism, but it's this lecture that stands out. It's complex material but it's explained so clearly and concisely. The hardest part for me was the realisation that none of what she said or did was real. It was a scam that was wrapped up as love. People, we need to be careful out there, as these beasts walk among us

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• JA

  @janemann8613 · 1 year ago

  The feeling of ‘loving yourself’ is the answer. Self love. I have been eating well, out walking in nature. I play with my hobbies, arts & crafts. These things have put time and space between my hurt & grief and made my life open up and give me joy & true happiness. ❤️

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  @vernicelli · 2 years ago

  I've recently been discarded, and it feels like I'm being dragged into an endless abyss. Looking back, I should have left the moment I felt that intense fear. The fear was so overwhelming that I couldn't even catch my breath when he revealed his true self for the first time. It's terrifying because I grew up feeling rejected by my own mother, who called me a mistake. I'm lost and don't know what to do.

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  @allywolf9182 · 3 years ago

  Look how bad off people are after 2 or 3 years with a narcissist. I WAS RAISED BY ONE! Can't find a therapist. These people gravitate towards me like a magnet. It's hell

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  @slashharken5008 · 3 years ago (edited)

  As a gay man, my first significant relationship was with a vulnerable narcissist for approximately three years. I resided with him in isolation for around a year in a foreign country, and that was when I experienced the deepest depression I had ever felt, even while taking a high dose of anti-depressants. After leaving him, I returned to the pandemic, with the gym closed, therapy becoming inaccessible, and I was left feeling isolated. During this time of confusion and depression, I discovered Sam Vaknin, as well as other healers like Dr. Ramani, who gave me some answers. However, this process felt like dying, and I cried without understanding why. It was grief for the dream, the fantasy of who I was. Your video made it clear that this was more like a process of death, grief, and ultimately resurrection as I strive to be reborn anew while still being haunted by the ghost of my narcissistic self.

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  @maximum360 · 1 year ago

  It makes sense. At a young age I observed my mother being physically abused by my father who then separated from my mother and moved to another country while being a womanizer. He then moved back to my country and tried to assault my mother while we were at my grandmother&apos;s house (had knife in hand threatening to kill her, threw acid on my uncle&apos;s face). He was initially held by the police but my mom asked them to pay him go. She gave custody of us to him and moved to the states where she began to rebuild her life again. All the signs point to him being a psychopath, who was largely absent in child rearing, idealized my success, but his primary focus womanizing.<br><br>After 20 years of marriage I finally pieced together that my wife is a covert narcissist. I wanted the stability and warmth of a relationship I didn&apos;t have growing up and unfortunately became prey to someone with narcissistic pathology. Such is life.

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  @MonaLisa-ur1px · 3 years ago

  You can accept the loss of self BUT you can reinvent yourself and become a new you!

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• DE

  @deanarjones9114 · 3 years ago

  A covert after an overt is devastating

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