CPTSD: Breaking The Toxic Shame/Procrastination Cycle With Self-Compassion

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  @triplixity · 2 years ago

  "Humans need comfort everyday." This is as shocking as when I heard "The 'normal' amount of su**dal thoughts is zero."

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• IT

  @itsamerrylife9128 · 3 years ago (edited)

  In complex trauma you often learn that reaching out for comfort is dangerous

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• TH

  @TheSaintedOne · 3 years ago

  I get this overwhelming sense of doom and hopelessness when facing significant stressors. I honestly feel it in my body. Even when I clicked on this video.

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• NE

  @NE_BlueJay · 2 years ago

  This is me. I was diagnosed last year at the age of 53. It was an amazing eye opener when I was told, “nope, you’re not a loser and failure, but a victim of an emotionally abusive father and an emotionally neglectful mother. I was never told I love you, never hugged, never had my hand held, never supported, never asked how I was doing, etc. With therapy and medication, I just hope the rest of my life will be happier.

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• SK

  @SkiftyKitty · 2 years ago

  Its even worse when you have no friends at all and your family doesnt understand your situation

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• NI

  @nicoleb9088 · 3 years ago

  This makes so much sense as to why I struggled in school as a child. I didn’t have parents that I could go to for comfort when I faced certain difficulties as a child. Now it’s even harder to cope as an adult after being trained my whole life that I don’t have anyone to go to and just getting overwhelmed trying to do it all by myself.

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• DA

  @DarkNobleSon · 2 years ago

  I started crying a little before the 15 minute mark. She explained my whole situation in a way I’ve never been able to formulate. I’m fucking 43. Better late than never I guess.

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• HA

  @hanbunz · 2 years ago

  To whoever else crying while watching this - I'm crying with you. You're not alone. You are so much stronger than you give yourself credit for. You are beautiful and worthy of love just the way you are. I wish I could hug you all

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• BA

  @babyxkande · 2 years ago (edited)

  I find that society, and certain communities prioritize the “push through it” approach so that people with cptsd who may need that extra comfort to regulate just get told to “try harder” or they get tough love rather than comfort which often deepens the toxic shame. It’s so crucial to find safe people when you have cptsd but also so difficult!

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• HA

  @hautecouture2228 · 3 years ago (edited)

  I struggled my whole life with procrastination. It cost me so many missed opportunities, affected my grades at University. My Masters degree took so much longer than it should and I had countless extensions for my coursework. I think it affects my self esteem in a bad way because I don’t want to start things I am perfectly capable of doing because I know it will be a pain as I will end up procrastinating. I feel so overwhelmed with everything. Sometimes at work I spend hours just zoning out and not being focused and then I am so behind with my work. I had counselling to address this. I was given helpful strategies. I have so many books on productivity and being more efficient but I am still the same. I feel like I am battling against something to achieve the simplest things and I am working against myself- sabotaging. I had lots of trauma, lifetime of narcissistic and psychopathic abuse, going through a war. I wish life was more simple and slower pace and that people are less evil and exploitative

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• OO

  @oober3690 · 3 years ago

  "People need a reasonable amount of comfort every single day."  This is so true.  I have CPTSD.  I don't ask for comfort for myself unless I am in extreme pain.  In the past, I have had partners who needed comfort for small issues, and I thought that they were just weak for it.  I was so wrong!  We all need a little hug, an "it's ok", a "you are strong" even for minor struggles.  It keeps us from spiraling into shame and loneliness and makes us stronger to handle the major stressors!

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• J.

  @j.erniewelsh8621 · 3 years ago

  It's amazing how powerful we become when we feel properly supported.

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