I Would Never Tell A 50 Year Old To Death Clean

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  @diamant1081 · 11 hours ago

  My mom had papers and bank statements going back to the 1990s. I offered her several times to sort out all those papers and create an up-to-date overview. She had a brand new shredder somewere in a box. I said that there was no rush and we could make it to cozy hours with coffee and treats. But she never accepted my offer to help her with the papers. At a certain point, I stopped offering my help in that. I didn't want to turn it into an awkward situation. I had to respect her rejection of my help. Sometimes the only thing you can do is to accept a no as answer. Irma from the Netherlands

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  @TonPat · 9 hours ago

  Death cleaning right now at 56. Lost each of my parents within 18 months of each other. Last year, I had to move mom from 2br to one-room nursing home, I made all of the decisions for her. <br>This summer while in ICU mom needed things from her nursing home: her purse, her glasses and her hair pick. When she passed in hospice, we turned off the lights, closed the door and I left with her purse, her glasses and her hair pick. <br>I came home and stuff mattered less. I am working through things with 3 categories ‘in use’, ‘seasonal’, and ‘for kids’. I am letting go of the things kids say they don’t want. You can take a picture of things that have memories and let new memories form for others. When I get stuck, I remember purse, glasses and hair pick was all that mattered in the end.

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• LA

  @LadyMaryanne · 10 hours ago

  Great video, thank you. Blessings to you and your family 🕊️

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• IN

  @ingerlarsson7096 · 10 hours ago

  Your videos are helpful 🌟 thank you🌞🌷🇸🇪

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• OR

  @orenlewis8679 · 8 hours ago (edited)

  Dearh is such a monster and no one knows when it will come. &nbsp;An 18 year old friend died in perfect health yesterday. &nbsp;So terrible and would&apos;ve been worse to ask her to clean out her room before she died when she had no plan to die.

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• YO

  @youandmeandmultiplescleros402 · 9 hours ago (edited)

  Instead of death cleaning, I’m creating a document with photos of items that have had importance to me, emphasizing that my attachment to an item does not in any way constrain what my heirs do with it. This way they know the stories that go with the items. I also note the few cases where an item has actually monetary value. It shows respect for the people and things I value.

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• JA

  @janetclark635 · 11 hours ago

  Very thoughtful.

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• AN

  @anitam569 · 7 hours ago

  My husband and I have each made a &nbsp;list of our 10-15 favorite things. When it comes time to downsize, we&apos;ll start by keeping &nbsp;those. Or, should something happen to either of us, we&apos;ll know what should be offered the kids as important mementos.

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  @shirleypatten6212 · 10 hours ago

  I was doing Swedish Death Cleaning before I even knew that it actually was a thing. &nbsp;Years ago, my DIL told me I better start getting rid of my stuff because she and my son wouldn&apos;t have time to go through everything and it all was going into the trash. &nbsp;It sounded harsh at the time. &nbsp;But since then, I&apos;ve been donating items that have no real meaning to me. &nbsp;Now that I&apos;m 79, I want to get to the point of having only the items I actually need to live and items that truly give me pleasure.

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• HA

  @havenothadmycoffee · 1 day ago

  I have been making a binder with important information, photos of items special to me and the story behind them. I have also just been writing little about memories when they come up and little things to family as well. I am definitely telling them now but I imagine having something written down would help saying goodbye when the time comes.

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• TI

  @tiltektin · 2 days ago

  Thank you for this, I have been the one talking about the concept to my parents, but it felt really strange to talk about, now I know this is why.

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• CO

  @CocoB22 · 11 hours ago

  This is a really important subject. &nbsp;I think both sides need a good dose of reality. &nbsp; Cleaning out a home is no joke. &nbsp;Currently I am doing it now. &nbsp;The majority of the contents actually belong to me. &nbsp;They belonged to my mother and grandmother. &nbsp;The best of the best I have kept and the rest will be dealt with. &nbsp;There were no treasures just stuff. &nbsp;I have gifted things to people who are already cherishing them. &nbsp;There are things I absolutely would hate to see donated, but I cannot sell them. &nbsp;The amount of work to sell them and meet with potential buyers is not something I am able or even really willing to do. &nbsp;I have personally have zero regrets. &nbsp;By many standards I live an extremely privileged life and I know that and while social media can be extreme at times looking at some of the collections of random things that people think are “valuable” or will be “valuable” some day makes it extremely easy to become really upset if that will be your inheritance. &nbsp;If you have not looked at or seen that collection in years and it’s in wrapped in paper in a box in the attic- time to sell it and put the proceeds in an inheritance account. &nbsp;<br><br>I would also add- get rid of obvious junk, trash the toaster that needs to be tossed. &nbsp;The old sticky Tupperware can be trashed. &nbsp;Lastly, bonafide antiques deserve care, make sure they get it.

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