The Problem With Making Work Your Whole Identity

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  @MoneyGist · 3 months ago

  &quot;Secure people don&apos;t explain their choices to strangers.&quot;<br><br>I should have that on a wall.

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  @Riccardo_Mori · 2 months ago

  I remember answering the dreaded &quot;What do you do?&quot; question by saying, &quot;I&apos;m a wearer of many hats — and I look good in all of them&quot;. I said it in a playful tone, adding the second part because the first sounded a little weak in my head. I was later told that that made a good first impression. (Of course I later proved I knew my stuff during the conversations that ensued). Cheers! //Rick

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• CL

  @clockworkninja884 · 3 months ago

  In other words people need hobbies.

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• EM

  @emcc187 · 3 months ago

  Another factor is people are often born into their role and haven&apos;t earned it. They have strong incentive to intentionally keep up the facade. Nepotism leads to weak leaders.

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  @HouseOfGravitas · 3 months ago

  Correct. I retired after 8 years in a role, medical, prestige and clout. Whole identity. <br>Post retirement of that role, working on a business and do other odd jobs BUT, I now am free from drudgery, I am taking much better care of myself, enjoying Jazz clubs, outings in nature, learning new skills. <br>My validation was required from others, now I speak my intellect, interests with clarity, fun, energy, consideration of the other speaking. My central nervous system has reset, I&apos;m more attractive now through less effort. The paradox. 😂

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• BE

  @BeingHumanInSouthAfrica · 3 months ago

  Welcome back. It was worth staying subscribed. Another great video and some new video techniques. Thanks.

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• HI

  @hinogi · 3 months ago

  This has a taste of the Sunk Cost Fallacy, where you have invested so much in your title so you do everything to hang on.

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• KA

  @katiemobley5882 · 1 month ago

  I wanted to let you know how much your videos are helping me. I talk on the phone all day and I’m very introverted so I come across as nervous and not confident. And today I implemented some of your techniques like slowing down my speech and pausing (which is so hard for me) and today went so well! I thought I would get behind, but the opposite happened I made the most calls I’ve ever made. Thank you so much! ❤

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• TE

  @terrypeters8682 · 3 months ago

  Society and Corporations are the drivers to the identity. Though most will not admit it.

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• LI

  @lizhao6979 · 3 months ago

  可能人失去身份就像失去影子，會覺得恐慌，因為身份被賦予意義。就像那些大慈善家，做生意錙銖必較，但同時也深諳數字的沒有意義，從而慷慨大度，因為賺多少錢，捐贈做了多少事，讓他們覺得實現了人生價值。

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  @Yus-b9e · 2 months ago

  I know a colleague like this. He made a mountain out of a molehill all because he simply cannot admit he made a mistake. That attitude struck a nerve all the way up to the top management. Your ego can be your worst enemy.

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  @LunatiSenpai · 3 months ago

  I went through this. After many years in a single role it&apos;s easy to associate with it, it shattered me when I lost it.<br><br>Coming out the other side it gave me a chance to look back and at the things I loved outside of that and start thinking about just myself and the skills I&apos;ve built up over those years.<br><br>Looking for new ways to bring magic to others lives has been a healing experience.

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