Problems with Polyamory

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  @WattsTheSafeword · 3 years ago · pinned

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• VE

  @Verris_Ephemera · 3 years ago

  I myself got two partners and this video taught me the term metamour -<br>glad to know there is a word for that because saying &quot;my partner who is not dating my other partner&quot; got old real quick lmaooo

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• NI

  @NikkiBudders · 3 years ago

  Highkey jealous of the fact that polycules get to have team names. XD Though I guess mono couples have ship names?

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• XB

  @xBlondieBear · 3 years ago

  There needs to be more education around other relationships types. ENM is now popular on the Australia dating scene but I’ve experienced people only calling it that in order to cheat on their long term partners

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• LA

  @larachirich2259 · 2 years ago

  We talk always about communication, honesty but there is something VERY important... SELF-AWARENESS . If you are not aware of your feelings and you don&apos;t do an internal process, you would not be able to communicate. Self-awarness is something that is key to really understand what is inside us. It&apos;s not only about knowing why you are sad or mad, it&apos;s about knowing exactly what is the trigger.

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• EB

  @ebonyblack4563 · 2 years ago (edited)

  The polycule I&apos;m most familiar with has an Ace as part of the closest/oldest couple in it, but his primary is very not Ace; so, the other partners help keep the Ace from being overwhelmed, and he genuinely loves seeing his main partner satisfied emotionally and physically.

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• LA

  @larachirich2259 · 2 years ago

  The most common for me is &quot;you are poly because you don&apos;t want to have compromise and responsibility&quot;. I am like, it&apos;s the opposite... I have much more responsibilities because I have the responsibility for each of them and the add of poly. I care for all my partners and I am there for all of them. It has much more responsibilities than a monogamous relationship

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• GI

  @GirlBear88 · 3 years ago

  Some of the biggest ones I come across all the time are that being poly is the same as &quot;open&quot; and its all about sex, that it&apos;s something my husband pushed for, and that being poly means we don&apos;t feel jealousy. I moved from California Bay Area to a pretty conservative town in Oregon and my openness about my life leads to people constantly having questions, and people are either worried for me, or confused that my husband and girlfriend know each other and get along, or get confused when I have jealous moments when husbands on a date.

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• MI

  @missuschainsaw · 3 years ago

  I got used as a guinea pig in someone else&apos;s &quot;poly&quot; relationship. I told him he needed more communication with his primary, and since she was insecure about some aspects of our &quot;secondary&quot; relationship, I would be willing to meet her or text so we could have conversations and alleviate her stress. Turns out, he was using me for the s3x, lying to her about a lot of it, but taking all my advice so when he finally got sick of me, he could apply what he knew was the right thing to do with his new relationship that he started about a month later. It makes me never want to go near another poly person again, even though I know nothing about that relationship was done correctly.

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• MI

  @Miss_Lexisaurus · 2 years ago

  The love as a finite resource thing is so wierd to me because everyone understands they can love multiple kids, multiple friends, multiple family members. Nobody is out there going &quot;you can&apos;t love your best friend properly if you have other friends&quot; because that is clearly nonsense!

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• TY

  @tynebaker · 2 years ago

  Oh dear, I’m sad for daddy that that former partner took his journalling joy away from him. Journalling can be so helpful and nice!

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• JE

  @jerrimenard3092 · 2 years ago

  This video came just in time for me. I have been in an intimate friendship with someone and today I finally met their Primary Partner. I got some real mixed signals. It&apos;s strange between them and they were acting funny. I tried to talk it over with my special friend and they pulled this pathetic &quot; what do you mean&quot; act. It&apos;s time to cut the cord.<br> They lied and said they were sick. I was worried. Then I saw them and their partner at a Pride event looking right as rain. It&apos;s a deal breaker for me. Time for my famous INFJ door slam.

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