Why we struggle to love ourselves and others | Alain de Botton on the psychology of love
104K views · May 30, 2026 · Education
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@TheInstituteOfArtAndIdeas · 3 months ago · pinned
On a first date, would you ever ask someone: "In what ways are you insane?"<br><br>With a free trial, you can watch the full talk NOW at <a href="https://iai.tv/video/love-is-more-than-magic?utm_source=YouTube&utm_medium=pinned-comment">https://iai.tv/video/love-is-more-than-magic?utm_source=YouTube&utm_medium=pinned-comment</a>
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@carmenkamberos1156 · 2 months ago
After living eight decades in this earth , I can understand that “internal peace” is the force that our souls are searching for all the time. Love, sometimes is an inconvenience, others, a blessing, but always based on peace of the soul, where one soul can rest assuredly on another soul, like a butterfly resting on a fresh beautiful flower. Internal peace being the most precious commodity one can acquire in this life.
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@Neuroshiftdaily · 4 months ago
Love gets easier when you stop blaming the present for patterns your past taught you to protect.
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@davidmiller-g9x · 2 months ago
Clara Hartley’s anxiety quiz is one of those things you open because you’re bored and then accidentally start taking seriously. I even went back and reconsidered one of my answers because I realized I was choosing what I wanted to be true instead of what was actually true.
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@sean4w5 · 3 months ago
Some are searching for what's familiar. I'm searching for what I've never had.
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@nataliehollywoodart · 4 months ago
The only account I don’t need 2-3x speed as the value is so rich. Thank you.
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@do8559 · 1 month ago
This man will be studied long after he is gone. His work is ground-breaking.
@julie5668 · 4 months ago
Alain was good, as usual.<br>Adverts were a bloody pain, as usual!
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@TheReverendLawrenceShannon · 4 months ago
Alain de Botton is very impressive. This talk is wonderful.
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@newpilgrim · 4 months ago
Delightful breath of fresh air! Many thanks!
@grazianamontedoro5246 · 2 months ago
You are a true comedian ❤Respect
@velmaholdsworth3434 · 3 months ago
read Frome work on love. this talk is all over the place
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