The Uncomfortable Question You Should Ask on Every First Date - Alain de Botton
263K views · Mar 20, 2026 · Education
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@YunusAhmed-w3d · 9 days ago
If anxiety makes normal situations feel far more intense than they should, Anwen Reid’s anxiety quiz might help you understand why your mind reacts that way.
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@MissTinaHyde · 6 months ago
So many people here for the same needs! It s crazy to think that we are just looking for connection and love. So sad that most of us are feeling lonely. I wish you all the love you deserve.
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@Damo-np7ul · 6 months ago (edited)
Interesting. I said to a friend about my wife when we first got engaged that she was someone I could live with, he said his new wife was someone he couldn't live without. I also think love is more an action than an emotion, although a skill maybe a better description, that there is not only one person or soulmate we are meant to marry. <br><br>What many think is love at the early stage of a relationship is more likely limerence.
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@user-xs5dp4gw8e · 6 months ago (edited)
there are many soul mates<br>but the first one is you 😂<br><br>find yourself <br>before finding others
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@lefrise5 · 1 month ago
Using technology to find love about effective as using it to find friends. It gives you an illusion of either endless choices or none at all
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@julie5668 · 6 months ago
Buddah said the day we stop being available to others is the day we start becoming available to ourselves.<br>Jung said that until we make the unconscious conscious, it will direct our lives.
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@greatgyatso5429 · 6 months ago
Closure is something you can only give yourself. Nothing the other person says is going to take away the hurt
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@susandrouin1243 · 6 months ago (edited)
This is me, neglected in childhood emotionally and also in my marriage because it felt familiar…..
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@patriciabriscoe5069 · 6 months ago
I’m a 60 year old female that has left every man I’ve had a relationship with since I was a teen. A year ago I was talking with my therapist friend and told her about a tragedy that happened to me as a child by a male family member. My father brushed it to the side and my mom was my hero. I wasn’t trusting any male ! This realization was a revelation and I am so grateful to know this. I now have a solid relationship that I get to sustain 🤞🤩🙏.
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@kindoblue · 6 months ago (edited)
Every word from Alain feels like a sweet to savour. Everything is so well said.
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@annpangburn394 · 6 months ago
I love the reasoning Mr De Botton uses! He seems respectful of men and women
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@fatdragon_111 · 6 months ago (edited)
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TvztV7NLSRI&t=1194">19:54</a> a loved child feels that they matter immensely<br><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TvztV7NLSRI&t=1454">24:14</a> anxoius/avoidant
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