Psychologist On How to Release Emotional Energy When You’re Used to Avoiding Emotions
6.2K views · Jun 12, 2026 · Education
Comments · 15
@Japanjanbara · 3 months ago (edited)
At an unfortunate and tender juncture in my life, my GF chose to leave for the prospect of a new start in life. Fair enough. But at the time I felt so much pain that everything and everyone in my life seemed to be leaving me or turning to ash in my hands. No matter how hard I tried. I couldn’t cry as much as I wanted to though. My souls had been shattered so many times by then it felt like tears were not possible. But inside I was crying. My soul was crying. Worst feeling ever. Thanks for sharing this video.
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@TotalControl92 · 3 months ago
Hi Dr. Maika Steinborn, I just wanted to thank you for your content. You have no idea how much this is helping me and other thousands people processing some of the most painful experiences as a human. Thank you.
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@ViZofia · 3 months ago
Really liked this video! Lots of great advice
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@ncairsoft · 3 months ago
I really needed this... almost 10 years ago, the woman I was with (living in my apartment and everything) shut me out of her life, increased the drinking to two bottles of vodka and 3 Four Lokos a day, and locked herself in the bathroom all day and night to carry on "Facebook relationships" with 6 different guys. It got to the point that I begged for 10 minutes a day that we could put our phones down and connect...I knew about the other relationships, yet tried to surrender to just 10 minutes a day for some kind of connection. Obviously the relationship ended, but I have never gotten over the hurt that I went through, and have - inadvertently, not intentionally - made protecting myself a part of my identity.
@icete93 · 3 months ago
You have a very calm but engaging way of speaking, kudos!
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@dbmorton1114 · 3 months ago
You are a godsend. Thank you!
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@rrosaseconda · 3 months ago
Thank you.
@catgardens · 3 months ago
I drink and watch emotional singing auditions or sad movies.... Crying guaranteed,.if needed 😢😅
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@nitichadha6988 · 3 months ago
Protect mindset experience traumatic event burden threat
@twylabowman3489 · 3 months ago
Telling a dismissive avoidant to right down all they know about negative emotions or why emotions are not healthy is like asking a blind man to see. We don’t feel emotions so how can we write done anything about them.
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@alchempath · 3 months ago
Yes, we definitely need energy to process emotions. But to which extent do we have to immerse into emotions? And what is the difference between emotions and feelings?
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