Avoid Users, Takers, Exploiters!

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• TA

  @tamikic88 · 3 years ago

  "There is NOBODY there to recall how loving and giving you have been. No memory of that. Narcs and psychopaths have no past or future." Mr. Vaknin has helped so many people. Fully deserving of The Victim-Life Saving Accomlisments Nobel Prize, if there was one.

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• SA

  @salomeclaire7663 · 3 years ago

  The second "chance" with the narcissist will be presented to you as gift in pretty wrapping paper, but when you open the box you'll find it's empty, just like the narcissist.

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• NI

  @nina-y6k8v · 1 year ago (edited)

  Everything is transactional. Money is the most important thing to them and how much they can get from others. Narcs are miserable 24/7.

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• TJ

  @tjfSIM · 3 years ago

  My narc would say, while financially and emotionally bleeding me dry, “I’m a giver, not a taker”.

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• DY

  @dyanamyte · 3 years ago

  I think the narcissist not only feels loved and more secure when they're taking endlessly from someone, but the narcissist also believes, in a twisted way, they are expressing love to their significant other by taking from them. Their grandiosity is such that they say internally (and subconsciously?): "I'm so grand that my partner should feel honored to serve me. In fact, the chance to cater to my every whim is a genuine privilege that not everyone has, so the lucky, select few who get it should feel incredibly honored -- and 'loved.'"

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• WI

  @WinterWarlock261 · 3 years ago

  &quot;Why can&apos;t they act like mature responsible adults?&quot;<br><br>Because they&apos;re not, they never were, and they never will be any more than a pizza box ever will be.

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• SA

  @salomeclaire7663 · 3 years ago

  And him going swiftly once he is done with you, is the greatest gift he will ever give you.

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• AN

  @anonymousbyname1121 · 3 years ago

  Professor, if what you are saying is correct then we have a global pandemic full of narcissists and psychopaths.

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• EL

  @elsh332 · 3 years ago

  If you refuse to be used by them, then you are not loving them and you are evil and deserve their abuse ☠️ that sums up the relationship i just managed to distance myself out of.

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• PA

  @patriciagriffin1505 · 3 years ago

  You can’t avoid them these days but good boundaries do help

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• CA

  @callisto9149 · 1 year ago

  My last partner literally became me...

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• TA

  @tamikic88 · 3 years ago

  Professor, this is SO brilliant. You have described and explained the story of my life. I left my NPD ex-husband, and now you are equipping me to deal with my eldest daughter who checks all boxes you&apos;ve mentioned in this video. Knowledge is power, thank you so much &lt;3

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