The ONE Emotion That Ends Abandonment Issues

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  @LoveByDesign · 3 months ago · pinned

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• CA

  @carmenjolie4232 · 3 months ago

  Disgust is exactly what helped me walk away. It works! Once the “love” and “attraction” is gone, there’s NO way back. 😊

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• LP

  @lpgriffiths · 2 months ago

  Disgust as a useful emotional tool and *not a reason to feel shameful for feeling disgusted by another person&apos;s bad behavior. &nbsp;What a concept! I needed to hear this.

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• CA

  @calisthenicsqueen · 2 months ago

  Disgust works for a lot of things! It helped me stay abstinent for 3 years.

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• KE

  @keinrosaElefant · 3 months ago

  When I was a child, I turned this shame and disgust against myself, became depressive, later anorexic, hurt myself. I was always so understanding towards everybody&apos;s problems, didn&apos;t allow myself to have any needs, tried to help. If you told me then that I needed to feel disgust, I wouldn&apos;t have understood. I thought if I felt this, I would become so much worse than my parents, I would be unable to connect to anybody. I didn&apos;t want to become a bad person.<br><br>It took me years to be able to feel disgust for my father&apos;s behaviours, but I had to turn 41 to finally allow myself to feel this deep disgust towards my mother. I even felt rage and hatred towards her. <br><br><br>But nothing else happened, except maybe, I finally grew up at 41.

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• QU

  @quasiphysical · 2 months ago

  I’ve reached a point where I know exactly what a healthy connection looks like. The moment I spot toxic or covertly manipulative patterns, the attraction instantly dies. I’m immediately DISGUSTED.<br><br>Loving and respecting myself means I refuse to settle. I am no one’s mother, therapist, placeholder, or emotional punching bag. My time and energy are a privilege—meet me at my level, or be gone.

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• ER

  @erinl7946 · 2 months ago

  Absolutely. I had been with my husband since 2012, we had 3 kids together and something that I won’t share happened which direct impacted one of my kids. I was so violently disgusted in that plus an accumulation of other things that affected my kids I finally had the capability to leave. And leave without fearing who he’d end up with or being afraid he’d move on, I genuinely did not care anymore.

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• NO

  @NotAI-Twyla · 2 months ago

  Honorable mention: when they start abusing the animals. Then you know you’re not crazy.

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• FA

  @fashion4evr245 · 2 months ago

  You cannot be abandoned if you don’t abandon yourself

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• LE

  @leziggystardust · 1 month ago

  When I started to feel disgust I finally started to heal more deeply ❤

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• IN

  @ingeclaeys3761 · 2 months ago

  Disgust was what helped me end a toxic relationship. I was in an anxious/avoidant relationship for 5 years (Im FA and my DA ex activated my anxious side). The second half of this 5 years dynamic i learned about complex trauma and attachment styles and started healing and gave him all the information i was learning but he refused to do anything with that information. Towards the end i could feel nothing but disgust for him. The way he treated me, his cowardness, his selfishness, ... Every time i thought about him my lip would involuntarily curl up from disgust. I was no longer willing to accept whatever he was offering, I was no longer willing to suffer like i was. Now there is nothing, no love, no hate, no disgust, just indifference. I bare no ill will towards him, but i just couldn&apos;t care less. It truly feel freed from the addictive feeling he was providing.

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• FR

  @Freedominlovepah · 2 months ago

  Yes, you nailed it! &nbsp;Reaching disgust is the game changer. &nbsp;The cowardess in lack of accountability. &nbsp;The projection and then the clinging…a very wounded child.<br><br>Your videos have added to my trust in myself, not that I by any means perfect but rather I am done carrying another and do work that he is too unaware or lazy to do.<br>♥️

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