Still Jealous in Polyamory? It’s Not What You Think

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• MA

  @mayaklc9413 · 2 months ago

  Your video helped me a lot, I was feeling really guilty. My partner even suggested giving me control over his wishes about other people to just help me but I am not interested controlling him and I know it will not solve the nervous system problem. I was looking anything to regulate myself and I really needed to hear its okay to feel jealous and be non- mono. Thank you so much. ❤

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• GR

  @grievouserror · 11 months ago

  It's crazy how much I enjoy and appreciate this thing you do, Ellecia. I'm not polyamorous (probably) and I've never had an ENM relationship dynamic but there's inevitably a ton of helpful stuff in your videos. Regardless of the dynamic, I think most of the topics you discuss, the perspectives and techniques you offer, have a much broader application. At least they often resonate with me. In this particular instance, "You can't talk your way out of a felt experience" really grabbed me. It felt like you just explained about 80% of my life story. Thank you again, Ellecia!

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• KE

  @kenofken9458 · 11 months ago

  I&apos;ve been poly or ENM in some way for 30 years. <br><br>I find that what jealousy usually means is not resentment for my partner having pleasure and opportunity but an indication that I&apos;m not getting something I need.

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• MA

  @markjohnston7243 · 3 months ago

  The first video I have ever commented on in any genre I watch. I think you are the only person to describe the complexity of my thoughts and feelings with coping with my partner having another partner. I always struggled with it. You are the only one that pinpointed how I feel. I always try to be supportive. Yet, the jealousy and fear take over and it literally crushes me. I feel like a &nbsp;horrible person for &quot;betraying&quot; my partner<br>On these occasions. Other videos &nbsp;helped me feel more guilty because I felt they either are just a better, mature person or I am just to immature to cope properly. Thank you for helping me feel safer and really helping me feel that I am worthy of being loved and trusting

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• GO

  @GodwinXZ · 2 months ago

  Thank you. &nbsp;I needed this more than words can express.

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• DA

  @danizuc71 · 5 months ago

  Wow. Thank you so much for this video and for breaking it down so clearly. These feelings are sometimes so strong and persistent, even though logic tells us everything is fine!

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• MI

  @mipal7 · 5 months ago

  This was JUST the video I was looking for :) Thank you :)

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• RE

  @renegadesuccess · 7 months ago

  Thank you so much for this video 😊

• MI

  @mitz.arellano · 5 months ago (edited)

  Thanks for this video. This really helps navigate what I&apos;m going through right now. I feel so much jealousy and resentment towards the guy I&apos;m dating who&apos;s ENM. But he&apos;s been very honest with me and I&apos;m trying to see how we can work this out. There aren&apos;t many videos out there when it comes to this relationship dynamic.

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• TI

  @timoateabug7143 · 7 months ago

  So relatable! So real! I love it🥰🥰

• JA

  @jannass5539 · 8 days ago

  Yes! Abandonment. &nbsp;Trauma. Rejection. &nbsp;But ...it also turns me on. Gawd. It&apos;s ALL the feels

• EI

  @EILISSCALLY · 2 months ago (edited)

  Really enjoyed listening to this - I have a question for the community - I am in an early poly relationship and so far I havent struggled with jealously but it makes me feel very &nbsp;uncomfortable the thought of my partner having sex with anyone without a condom, also because it&apos;s like I&apos;d be linking my body to someone I haven&apos;t choosen - we have made a rule of condoms with all partners but recently he broke this rule and we are working through those feelings - I want to ask if yous think this is me intellectualising my feelings of<br>Jealously because of the intimacy and closeness sex without a condom (I feel) brings...or is this (as I also think) just a logical and safe approach in polyamory - this discussion has brought up all feelings and reflection on heiarchy &nbsp;and life direction...would love to know if anyone here has any advice