Autistic Love Languages - How We Show Love Differently

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  @LunDruid · 2 years ago

  It is also worth noting that different autistic people will have many different love languages of their own. I'm autistic myself, but I actually love hugs and snuggles and other non-sexual forms of physical intimacy, as long as it's with specific trusted people.

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• QU

  @quinlynnschultz6954 · 2 years ago

  I'm a late diagnosed autistic woman and I think something that contibuted to throwing me off the trail of my diagnosis is that I crave physical touch far more than the typical human. In an ideal world, I would be in close proximity to or in contact with someone else for around 1/2 the day. Does anyone else out there  experience this weird opposite side of the pendulum? It's not just a blindness to boundaries issue. I crave hearing another's heartbeat and breathing. I'm also particularly extroverted in that being near others is a huge source of my energy. Iam not good at being alone or in silence. I know they must be out there, but I've not known of anyone else, aware of being on the spectrum, who presents atypically like I do.

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• JH

  @JH-kw8zy · 2 years ago

  I'm an autistic woman and I'm like a cat. It must be on my terms and when i get overstimulated I must go 👋

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• ZY

  @zyfigamer · 2 years ago

  Autistic love is when you and your partner both make random animal noises at each other and it's just a normal part of your conversation.

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• KA

  @Katastr0phic_Katicorn · 2 years ago

  As an autistic woman, please just validate and hear my issues. I am an adult who has been solving my own problems MY WHOLE LIFE, more than just my whole adult life. I just need to feel heard and seen. Not fixed.

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• YE

  @yeahokaycoolcool · 2 years ago

  Just FYI venting isn't NT exclusive. I vent a lot and I find it cathartic. I don't always need solutions, I sometimes need empathy and support.

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• MI

  @minxiv7 · 2 years ago

  This is so helpful. I’m neurotypical, but my husband of 15 years just got his ASC diagnosis last year. He is struggling to unmask and deal with reviewing the past through his lense of being on the spectrum. He does so many of these things, the problem solving, the info dump sharing, parallel play, and especially gift giving! He does all of it and just like you describe, he is extremely thoughtful in his gift and card giving. <br><br>I am so glad you mentioned that extremely dismissive comment “everybody masks”. You are right, everybody does, but not everybody has to shut down after a masking moment! It’s so dismissive to say these “everybody does that” or even worse “everybody has some autism”. No, everybody doesn’t. Everybody doesn’t have to come home and just go straight to bed and shutdown for the rest of the day or even a couple of days after a couple hours of social masking because they are so exhausted from being overwhelmed by forcing themselves to pretend to be regulated in a social situation that was unbearably overwhelming, but that they committed to.

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• CA

  @carpdog42 · 2 years ago

  Had to pause for a second.... on the whole &quot;I may not pick up on you not being interested in this thing&quot;... I feel like there has always been this sense of, &quot;If you are not interested in this, clearly its because you don&apos;t know enough about it yet&quot;.

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• JA

  @jacksmith8403 · 2 years ago

  For me I see no difference in info dumping and venting. Someone vents an issue out to help relieve stress, to tell somebody who will listen a struggle just for the sake of well “venting”. But on the other hand info dumping, in a sense, is basically the same but instead of stress it’s just passion and excitement. Wanting to have someone listen to what you have to say because your over stimulated from the excitement and the happy feelings, you want to share. In a sense they are basically the same thing.

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• JO

  @joycezaid3909 · 2 years ago

  My beloved gave me a book on electrical wiring(I lived in an APARTMENT) for Christmas. &nbsp;I smiled, gave him hugs and kisses and said thank you. &nbsp;Strange but nice, because he thought I would need it someday. &nbsp;I told him, &quot;Other men give the women in their lives chocolate, jewelry, flowers, I get a WIRING book!&quot;. I didn&apos;t get mad, I cherished it because that was the way he was saying he loved me. &nbsp;I&apos;m married to this man, and everything I learned about this was trial and error, admittedly a LOT of error on BOTH our parts. &nbsp;I had a stroke last June, and he did everything he could to take care of me, as well as his dad, which was very difficult. &nbsp;I came home from my 2nd rehab, and the other residents and staff noticed the ways he looked out for me. &nbsp;His love languages are service, and touching. &nbsp;I couldn&apos;t be more proud of him. &nbsp;I&apos;m home now, and I love him more than ever. &nbsp;I accept him who he is(took several years though), as he does me. &nbsp;We BOTH had to meet each other halfway, and create our own playbook. &nbsp;And we&apos;re blessed as a result.

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• MI

  @mikintosh6111 · 2 years ago

  I&apos;ve found it helpful to just clearly ask when someone expresses a problem to ask if they&apos;re seeking solutions or if they&apos;re venting.

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  @justinhafner12383 · 2 years ago

  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-DUP-VFw1YA&amp;t=58">0:58</a> problem solving <br><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-DUP-VFw1YA&amp;t=251">4:11</a> info dumping<br><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-DUP-VFw1YA&amp;t=400">6:40</a> parallel play <br><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-DUP-VFw1YA&amp;t=605">10:05</a> sexual intimacy <br><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-DUP-VFw1YA&amp;t=895">14:55</a> unmasking<br><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-DUP-VFw1YA&amp;t=1103">18:23</a> gift giving

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